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Divorce Counseling Aiea HI

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. Read on for more.

Mr. Terry Martin
Terry J Martin LCSW, DCSW
(808) 271-5112
98-211 Pali Momi St. Suite 707
Aiea, HI
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW, DCSW
Licensed in Hawaii
20 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Addictions/Substance, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Behavioral Problems, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Interpersonal Relationships, Attachment Disorders
Populations Served
Children of Divorce, Military/Veterans
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Adults (26-59)

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Dr. Leon Pereira
Leon C Pereira PhD
(808) 255-3618
45-955 Kamehameha Hwy Suite 401
Kaneohe, HI
Credentials
Credentials: PhD
Licensed in Hawaii
13 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Attention Deficit (Hyperactivity) Disorder, Behavioral Problems, Bipolar Disorders, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Interpersonal Relationships, Parenting Issues, Stress, Trauma/PTSD, Personality Disorders
Populations Served
Children of Divorce, Step Families, Interracial Families/Couples, Biracial, College Students
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59), Seniors (60 +)

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Ms. Clary Mitchell-Smith
(808) 951-8560
2015 Lime Street #204
Honolulu, HI
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in Hawaii
35 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Addictions/Other (gambling, sex, etc.), Addictions/Substance, Aging, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Career/Employment Concerns, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Dissociative Disorders, Eating Disorders, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relation
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual, Interracial Families/Couples
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59), Seniors (60 +)

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Eleanor Sharsh
(808) 485-0206
Aiea, HI
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Couples & Family, School, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

DarLene Jones
(808) 847-9857
Pearl City, HI
Practice Areas
Addictions and Dependency, Career Development, Childhood & Adolescence, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family
Certifications
National Certified Counselor
Language Proficiencies
Spanish,

Mr. Dan Baram
Malama Project Inc
(808) 228-8957
98-084 Kamehameha Hwy Suite 301B
Aiea, HI
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in Hawaii
18 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Attention Deficit (Hyperactivity) Disorder, Behavioral Problems, Bipolar Disorders, Child Abuse and Neglect, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Dissociative Disorders, Family Dysfunction, Interpersonal Relationships, Multicultur
Populations Served
AIDS/HIV+, Children of Divorce, Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual, Military/Veterans, Step Families, Chronic Illness, Interracial Families/Couples
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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Ms. Cheyenne Akana
Cheyenne Akana, LCSW
(808) 941-1800
1806 S. King Street, Suite 24
Honolulu, HI
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in Hawaii
11 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Attention Deficit (Hyperactivity) Disorder, Autism/PDD, Behavioral Problems, Bipolar Disorders, Child Abuse and Neglect, Depression, Developmental Disability, Family Dysfunction, Interpersonal Relationships, Parenting Issues, Self
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), Children of Divorce, Military/Veterans, Disabled, Caregivers, Step Families, Interracial Families/Couples, Biracial, Grandparents
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Preschool (Under 6), Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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Ms. Sharon Usagawa
Ho`omalie/Tranquility
(808) 386-8523
970 N. Kalaheo Ave. Suite C201
Kailua, HI
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in Hawaii
20 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Behavioral Problems, Child Abuse and Neglect, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Domestic Violence, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Parenting Issues, Runaways, Self Abuse, Spiritual/Religious Concern
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), Children of Divorce, Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual, Transgendered, Military/Veterans, Caregivers, Step Families, Interracial Families/Couples, Biracial, Grandparents
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59), Seniors (60 +)

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Ms. Trenda Lee Berkey, LCSW
(808) 382-3388
98-211 Pali Momi St. Ste 707
Aiea, HI
Specialties
Addictions or Substance Abuse,ADHD,Anger Management,Anxiety or Fears,Child or Adolescent Issues,Depression,Divorce,Domestic Abuse or Violence,Eating Disorders,Parenting
Gender
Female
Education
University of Hawaii at LCCUniversity of Hawaii at West OahuUniversity of Hawaii at Manoa
Insurance
Yes
Membership Organizations
Psychotherapy Works Inc.

Ann Dorado
(808) 455-0652
Pearl City, HI
Practice Areas
Career Development, Counselor Education, Couples & Family, School, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor
Language Proficiencies
tagalog

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11 Quick Questions about Divorce

11 Quick Questions About Divorce


1. How does the quality of one's relationship with their ex-spouse influence the psychological adjustment of their children?

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. When parents model angry, selfish and bitter interaction with one another, their children learn that these disrespectful behaviors are the protocol for how people should be treated. It is no wonder that children from high conflict divorce have a higher incidence of failed relationships later in life. I believe this is why.

2. You write, "Smart parenting is all about trading the momentary relief of venting anger and frustration at your co-parent for the benefit of raising healthier, more productive, and less stressed children." How can a parent deal with their anger in a healthy way that does not cause more pain to their children?
Break a clay pot, scream into a pillow, make a voodoo doll out of modeling clay. Do what ever you want (as long as it is legal and outside of your children's presence) but do not expose your children to toxic emotion. Oh yes, and read my book.

3. How can a person de-escalate the conflict between themselves and their ex-spouse?

It takes two people to fight. The key to de-scalation is ignoring insult and offering reasonable compromises. This takes practice because often, in poor co-parenting relationships people cannot resist the urge to fight fire with fire. Actually to continue the imagery, it is best to fight fire with water. Parents often ask, "Why shoud I give the co-parent what he/she wants?" The answer to this is "because when you can, and when it doesn't much matter one way or the other (i.e. an extra few minutes here and there) the reduction in conflict benefits the kids."

4. What is the "package" that can make a difference in the quality of communication between the ex-spouses?

Resist the urge to "dig" or "poke" with sarcasm and direct insults. Understand that if you hate the co-parent, it is more difficult to love the part of your child that came from the co-parent. Take relief in the fact that any communication you have with the co-parent has a beginning and an end (at least for the moment) and when the contact is over you don't have to go back home and sleep with them.

5. Can you share with us some practical tips for negotiating with a former spouse who is a jerk?
Again, realize that giving in on minor issues is not a sign of personal weakness; on the contrary it is s sign of strength. Understand that what makes people as difficult as they are is that they "enjoy the fight." Fighting, bickering and nitpicking is feeding a part of them that they enjoy -- and that most likely y...

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