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Divorce Counseling Anniston AL

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. Read on for more.

Lorna Usrey
(256) 492-4709
Anniston, AL
Practice Areas
Addictions and Dependency, Clinical Mental Health, Counselor Education, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Michael Stuckey
(256) 236-2246
Anniston, AL
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, School
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Melanie Wallace
(256) 782-5096
Jacksonville, AL
Practice Areas
Counselor Education, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill, Mental Health/Agency Counseling, Supervision
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

James Lloyd
(205) 236-6114
Anniston, AL
Practice Areas
Career Development, Childhood & Adolescence, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Rehabilitation
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Ms. Tamara Jenkins
Tami Jenkins, ACSW, LCSW, PIP
(334) 244-7322
4252 Carmichael Road Suite 228
Montgomery, AL
Credentials
Credentials: ACSW, LCSW, PIP
Licensed in Alabama
30 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Behavioral Problems, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Parenting Issues, Sexual Abuse/Rape, Life Transitions, Men's Issues, Women's Issues
Populations Served
Children of Divorce, Military/Veterans, Step Families
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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Patricia S Wynn
(256) 236-3403
Anniston, AL
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, School
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Kelly Kaplan
(256) 831-0790
Oxford, AL
Practice Areas
Addictions and Dependency, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
Master Addictions Counselor, National Certified Counselor

T David Cunningham Jr
(258) 435-9346
Jacksonville, AL
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Counselor Education, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Mr. James Russell
James E. Russell,Ed.S.,LPC
(205) 387-0902
131 Portzer Rd
Jasper, AL
Credentials
Credentials: EdS, LPC
Licensed in Alabama
37 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Behavioral Problems, Bipolar Disorders, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Parenting Issues, Stress, Sleep Disorders
Populations Served
Step Families
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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Dr. DAVID MYERS
DAVID E. MYERS, PHD
(205) 252-8808
2112 11TH AVE S, STE 340
BIRMINGHAM, AL
Credentials
Credentials: PHD
Licensed in Alabama
30 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Trauma/PTSD, Women's Issues
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics)
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Adults (26-59)

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11 Quick Questions about Divorce

11 Quick Questions About Divorce


1. How does the quality of one's relationship with their ex-spouse influence the psychological adjustment of their children?

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. When parents model angry, selfish and bitter interaction with one another, their children learn that these disrespectful behaviors are the protocol for how people should be treated. It is no wonder that children from high conflict divorce have a higher incidence of failed relationships later in life. I believe this is why.

2. You write, "Smart parenting is all about trading the momentary relief of venting anger and frustration at your co-parent for the benefit of raising healthier, more productive, and less stressed children." How can a parent deal with their anger in a healthy way that does not cause more pain to their children?
Break a clay pot, scream into a pillow, make a voodoo doll out of modeling clay. Do what ever you want (as long as it is legal and outside of your children's presence) but do not expose your children to toxic emotion. Oh yes, and read my book.

3. How can a person de-escalate the conflict between themselves and their ex-spouse?

It takes two people to fight. The key to de-scalation is ignoring insult and offering reasonable compromises. This takes practice because often, in poor co-parenting relationships people cannot resist the urge to fight fire with fire. Actually to continue the imagery, it is best to fight fire with water. Parents often ask, "Why shoud I give the co-parent what he/she wants?" The answer to this is "because when you can, and when it doesn't much matter one way or the other (i.e. an extra few minutes here and there) the reduction in conflict benefits the kids."

4. What is the "package" that can make a difference in the quality of communication between the ex-spouses?

Resist the urge to "dig" or "poke" with sarcasm and direct insults. Understand that if you hate the co-parent, it is more difficult to love the part of your child that came from the co-parent. Take relief in the fact that any communication you have with the co-parent has a beginning and an end (at least for the moment) and when the contact is over you don't have to go back home and sleep with them.

5. Can you share with us some practical tips for negotiating with a former spouse who is a jerk?
Again, realize that giving in on minor issues is not a sign of personal weakness; on the contrary it is s sign of strength. Understand that what makes people as difficult as they are is that they "enjoy the fight." Fighting, bickering and nitpicking is feeding a part of them that they enjoy -- and that most likely y...

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