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Divorce Counseling Appleton WI

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. Read on for more.

Penelope Redlich-Stroik
(920) 230-2065
Appleton, WI
Practice Areas
Career Development, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Carolyn B Beyer
(920) 722-8150
Menasha, WI
Practice Areas
Addictions and Dependency, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

James Baer
(920) 570-1904
Menasha, WI
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Liv Arafat
(920) 231-2858
Oshkosh, WI
Practice Areas
Aging/Gerontological, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor
Language Proficiencies
French, German, Norwegian

Cherie Lindberg
(920) 231-2858
Oshkosh, WI
Practice Areas
Clinical Mental Health, Counselor Education, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Mr. Richard Alberts
(920) 240-0960
Richard Alberts, MA, MS MFT345 East Wisconsin Avenue
Appleton, WI
Specialties
Marriage/Family & Veteran issues, Relationship Issues, Anxiety or Fears, Dissociative Disorders
Qualification
School: University of Wisconsin-Stout
Year of Graduation: 1992
Years In Practice: 30+ Years
Patient Info
Ethnicity: Any
Gender: All
Age: Children (6 to 10),Adolescents / Teenagers (14 to 19),Adults,Elders (65+)
Average Cost
$80 - $150
Payment Methods
Sliding Scale: Yes
Accepts Credit Cards: Yes

Kathleen K Kraus
(920) 456-2049
Menasha, WI
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Linda Schmidt Goss
(920) 582-4870
Winnebago, WI
Practice Areas
Career Development, Couples & Family, School, Sports Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Julie A Fischer
(920) 982-4242
New London, WI
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Eating Disorders, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Judith A Hoffmann
(920) 292-4579
Oshkosh, WI
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

11 Quick Questions about Divorce

11 Quick Questions About Divorce


1. How does the quality of one's relationship with their ex-spouse influence the psychological adjustment of their children?

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. When parents model angry, selfish and bitter interaction with one another, their children learn that these disrespectful behaviors are the protocol for how people should be treated. It is no wonder that children from high conflict divorce have a higher incidence of failed relationships later in life. I believe this is why.

2. You write, "Smart parenting is all about trading the momentary relief of venting anger and frustration at your co-parent for the benefit of raising healthier, more productive, and less stressed children." How can a parent deal with their anger in a healthy way that does not cause more pain to their children?
Break a clay pot, scream into a pillow, make a voodoo doll out of modeling clay. Do what ever you want (as long as it is legal and outside of your children's presence) but do not expose your children to toxic emotion. Oh yes, and read my book.

3. How can a person de-escalate the conflict between themselves and their ex-spouse?

It takes two people to fight. The key to de-scalation is ignoring insult and offering reasonable compromises. This takes practice because often, in poor co-parenting relationships people cannot resist the urge to fight fire with fire. Actually to continue the imagery, it is best to fight fire with water. Parents often ask, "Why shoud I give the co-parent what he/she wants?" The answer to this is "because when you can, and when it doesn't much matter one way or the other (i.e. an extra few minutes here and there) the reduction in conflict benefits the kids."

4. What is the "package" that can make a difference in the quality of communication between the ex-spouses?

Resist the urge to "dig" or "poke" with sarcasm and direct insults. Understand that if you hate the co-parent, it is more difficult to love the part of your child that came from the co-parent. Take relief in the fact that any communication you have with the co-parent has a beginning and an end (at least for the moment) and when the contact is over you don't have to go back home and sleep with them.

5. Can you share with us some practical tips for negotiating with a former spouse who is a jerk?
Again, realize that giving in on minor issues is not a sign of personal weakness; on the contrary it is s sign of strength. Understand that what makes people as difficult as they are is that they "enjoy the fight." Fighting, bickering and nitpicking is feeding a part of them that they enjoy -- and that most likely y...

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Wisconsin Legal Requirements for Divorce

Waiting Period
Judgment effective immediately, except parties cannot remarry for 6 months. 767.37(2). No trial until 120 days after service of summons or filing of joint petition (court can order immediate hearing for health and safety of party or child). 767.083

"No Fault" Grounds for Divorce
Irretrievable breakdown. 767.07 (2)(a)

Residency Requirements
Either party bona fide resident at least 6 months. 767.05 (1m)

Defenses to a Divorce Filing
If both parties do not agree the marriage is irretrievably broken and have not lived apart for 12 months, court may suggest counseling and set for rehearing in 30-60 days. §767.12

Code Section
767.001, et seq.

Other Grounds for Divorce
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From www.statelaws.findlaw.com