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Divorce Counseling Auburn WA

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. Read on for more.

Ms. Peggy Nast Hayes
(206) 275-3225
2955 80th Avenue SE Suite 206
Mercer Island, WA
Credentials
Credentials: LICSW, BCD
Licensed in Washington
30 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Aging, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Depression, Eating Disorders, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Parenting Issues, Phobias, Pregnancy/Childbirth, Sexual Abuse/Rape, Stress, Trauma/PTSD, Education/Personal Development, Immigration/
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), Children of Divorce, Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual, Caregivers, Cancer Patients, Obese or Overweight
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59), Seniors (60 +)

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MarieLouise (Lou) Dodson, MA, LMHC, NCC
(253) 929-1530, (253) 310-7277
402 South 333rd Stree
Federal Way, WA
Specialties
Couples and Marriage Counseling. Infidelity; Trauma;Depression; Anxiety; Eating Disorders; Addictions and Substance Abuse; Difficult LifeTransitions; Co-dependency; Grief and Loss; Pre-marital counseling.

Kelly S Peck
(253) 435-8413
Puyallup, WA
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Cindy Bock
(253) 561-3531
Kent, WA
Practice Areas
Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Sound Foundations Professional Counseling
(253) 236-0298
Sound Foundations Professional Counseling104 W Main STE 207
Puyallup, WA
Specialties
Relationship Issues, Divorce, Parenting
Qualification
School: Pacific Lutheran University
Year of Graduation: 2006
Years In Practice: 3 Years
Patient Info
Ethnicity: Any
Gender: Male
Average Cost
$70 - $80
Payment Methods
Sliding Scale: No
Accepts Credit Cards: No

Anderson, Gaaren LMFT
(253) 804-9596
515 M St. NE
Auburn, WA
Specialties
Communication, Differences, Anger, Sex, Step-Couples, Affairs, Trust, Intimacy, Affection, Boundaries and Assertiveness.

Anita Louise Schamber
(253) 859-8948
Kent, WA
Practice Areas
Career Development, Couples & Family
Certifications
National Certified Counselor
Language Proficiencies
English

Charles Rehberg
(253) 223-6059
Bonney Lake, WA
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, School, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Beroz Ferrell
(253) 813-8577
Kent, WA
Practice Areas
Career Development, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Rehabilitation, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor
Language Proficiencies
Hindi Gujarati Nepali

Mark Harris
(253) 848-3012
Federal Way, WA
Practice Areas
Career Development, Childhood & Adolescence, Couples & Family, School
Certifications
National Certified Counselor
Language Proficiencies
Spanish, German

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11 Quick Questions about Divorce

11 Quick Questions About Divorce


1. How does the quality of one's relationship with their ex-spouse influence the psychological adjustment of their children?

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. When parents model angry, selfish and bitter interaction with one another, their children learn that these disrespectful behaviors are the protocol for how people should be treated. It is no wonder that children from high conflict divorce have a higher incidence of failed relationships later in life. I believe this is why.

2. You write, "Smart parenting is all about trading the momentary relief of venting anger and frustration at your co-parent for the benefit of raising healthier, more productive, and less stressed children." How can a parent deal with their anger in a healthy way that does not cause more pain to their children?
Break a clay pot, scream into a pillow, make a voodoo doll out of modeling clay. Do what ever you want (as long as it is legal and outside of your children's presence) but do not expose your children to toxic emotion. Oh yes, and read my book.

3. How can a person de-escalate the conflict between themselves and their ex-spouse?

It takes two people to fight. The key to de-scalation is ignoring insult and offering reasonable compromises. This takes practice because often, in poor co-parenting relationships people cannot resist the urge to fight fire with fire. Actually to continue the imagery, it is best to fight fire with water. Parents often ask, "Why shoud I give the co-parent what he/she wants?" The answer to this is "because when you can, and when it doesn't much matter one way or the other (i.e. an extra few minutes here and there) the reduction in conflict benefits the kids."

4. What is the "package" that can make a difference in the quality of communication between the ex-spouses?

Resist the urge to "dig" or "poke" with sarcasm and direct insults. Understand that if you hate the co-parent, it is more difficult to love the part of your child that came from the co-parent. Take relief in the fact that any communication you have with the co-parent has a beginning and an end (at least for the moment) and when the contact is over you don't have to go back home and sleep with them.

5. Can you share with us some practical tips for negotiating with a former spouse who is a jerk?
Again, realize that giving in on minor issues is not a sign of personal weakness; on the contrary it is s sign of strength. Understand that what makes people as difficult as they are is that they "enjoy the fight." Fighting, bickering and nitpicking is feeding a part of them that they enjoy -- and that most likely y...

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