dad dads
Returning User? Login Here
» » ยป

Divorce Counseling Buckeye AZ

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. Read on for more.

Barbara Baumgardner, PhD, RN, IBCLC
(623) 262-8915
1626 N. Litchfield Road, Suite 280
Goodyear, AZ
Specialties
I offer a highly personalized approach, tailoring best evidence-based andresearch practices to your family''s needs.

Desert Sky Counseling
(623) 932-0637
503 E Plaza Cir
Avondale, AZ
 
Desert Sky Counseling
(623) 932-0637
501 W Van Buren St
Avondale, AZ
 
Pineda Counseling Services
(623) 535-1121
549 E Plaza Cir
Avondale, AZ
 
Fritzies Heart And Soul Bbq
(623) 882-8109
1473 N Dysart Rd
Avondale, AZ
 
David Phelan
(623) 330-3197
Litchfield Park, AZ
Practice Areas
Career Development, Childhood & Adolescence, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

All Faith Community Outreach
(623) 882-1249
127 E Western Ave
Avondale, AZ
 
Survivors On Our Own
(623) 882-8463
605 N Central Ave
Avondale, AZ
 
Prehab Of Arizona
(623) 932-5758
501 W Van Buren St
Avondale, AZ
 
Ms. Sue Tham
(520) 490-4932
8860 E Wrightstown Road
Tucson, AZ
Credentials
Credentials: MSW, LCSW
Licensed in Arizona
15 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Trauma/PTSD
Populations Served
Children of Divorce, Chronic Illness
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Adolescents (13-17), Adults (26-59)

Data Provided By:
Data Provided By:

11 Quick Questions about Divorce

11 Quick Questions About Divorce


1. How does the quality of one's relationship with their ex-spouse influence the psychological adjustment of their children?

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. When parents model angry, selfish and bitter interaction with one another, their children learn that these disrespectful behaviors are the protocol for how people should be treated. It is no wonder that children from high conflict divorce have a higher incidence of failed relationships later in life. I believe this is why.

2. You write, "Smart parenting is all about trading the momentary relief of venting anger and frustration at your co-parent for the benefit of raising healthier, more productive, and less stressed children." How can a parent deal with their anger in a healthy way that does not cause more pain to their children?
Break a clay pot, scream into a pillow, make a voodoo doll out of modeling clay. Do what ever you want (as long as it is legal and outside of your children's presence) but do not expose your children to toxic emotion. Oh yes, and read my book.

3. How can a person de-escalate the conflict between themselves and their ex-spouse?

It takes two people to fight. The key to de-scalation is ignoring insult and offering reasonable compromises. This takes practice because often, in poor co-parenting relationships people cannot resist the urge to fight fire with fire. Actually to continue the imagery, it is best to fight fire with water. Parents often ask, "Why shoud I give the co-parent what he/she wants?" The answer to this is "because when you can, and when it doesn't much matter one way or the other (i.e. an extra few minutes here and there) the reduction in conflict benefits the kids."

4. What is the "package" that can make a difference in the quality of communication between the ex-spouses?

Resist the urge to "dig" or "poke" with sarcasm and direct insults. Understand that if you hate the co-parent, it is more difficult to love the part of your child that came from the co-parent. Take relief in the fact that any communication you have with the co-parent has a beginning and an end (at least for the moment) and when the contact is over you don't have to go back home and sleep with them.

5. Can you share with us some practical tips for negotiating with a former spouse who is a jerk?
Again, realize that giving in on minor issues is not a sign of personal weakness; on the contrary it is s sign of strength. Understand that what makes people as difficult as they are is that they "enjoy the fight." Fighting, bickering and nitpicking is feeding a part of them that they enjoy -- and that most likely y...

Click here to read the rest of this article from GreatDad.com