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Divorce Counseling Butte MT

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. Read on for more.

Elizabeth Bauer
(406) 353-2287
Butte, MT
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, School, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Jennifer Beatty
(406) 782-4778
Butte, MT
Practice Areas
Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Heidi Matlack-Larson, LCSW, LAC
(406) 782-0008
501 E. Front St. Ste 511B
Butte, MT
 
Ms. Paula Moyes
SAIC
(406) 721-6253
300 West Broadway Sutie 4
Missoula, MT
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW, ACSW, CAC
Licensed in Illinois
20 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Addictions/Substance, Behavioral Problems, Family Dysfunction, Anger Management
Populations Served
Interracial Families/Couples
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Adolescents (13-17)

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Mrs. Doris Heffner
Dodie Heffner
(406) 449-4800
516 Fuller Avenue, Suite 1
Helena, MT
Credentials
Credentials: L.C.S.W.
Licensed in Montana
31 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Adoption/Foster Care, Child Abuse and Neglect, Family Dysfunction, Parenting Issues, Attachment Disorders
Populations Served
Children of Divorce
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Children (6-12)

Data Provided By:
Jeffrey Alan Watson
(406) 782-4778
Butte, MT
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Supervision
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Elizabeth Zaluski
(406) 496-5425
Butte, MT
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Clinical Mental Health, Eating Disorders, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified Counselor
Language Proficiencies
Polish

Mrs. Rebecca Oss
(406) 594-9926
7 W. 6th Ave., 2C
Helena, MT
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in Montana
14 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Adoption/Foster Care, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Attention Deficit (Hyperactivity) Disorder, Behavioral Problems, Bipolar Disorders, Child Abuse and Neglect, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Parenting Issues, Runaways, Stress, Trauma/PTSD, Education/Personal
Populations Served
Children of Divorce, Step Families, Gifted, Diabetes
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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Ms. Ellen Savage Cole
Amalia PC
(496) 262-4242
325 10th Street
Havre, MT
Credentials
Credentials: LCPC
Licensed in Montana
28 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Addictions/Other (gambling, sex, etc.), Behavioral Problems, Couple or Marital Issues, Dissociative Disorders, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Parenting Issues, Sexual Disorders, Sexual Orientation, Stress, Trauma/PTSD, Dual Di
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), Children of Divorce, Transgendered, Step Families, Gifted
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59), Seniors (60 +)

Data Provided By:
Dennis Cox
Billings, MT
Practice Areas
Addictions and Dependency, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, School, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified School Counselor, Master Addictions Counselor, National Certified Counselor

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11 Quick Questions about Divorce

11 Quick Questions About Divorce


1. How does the quality of one's relationship with their ex-spouse influence the psychological adjustment of their children?

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. When parents model angry, selfish and bitter interaction with one another, their children learn that these disrespectful behaviors are the protocol for how people should be treated. It is no wonder that children from high conflict divorce have a higher incidence of failed relationships later in life. I believe this is why.

2. You write, "Smart parenting is all about trading the momentary relief of venting anger and frustration at your co-parent for the benefit of raising healthier, more productive, and less stressed children." How can a parent deal with their anger in a healthy way that does not cause more pain to their children?
Break a clay pot, scream into a pillow, make a voodoo doll out of modeling clay. Do what ever you want (as long as it is legal and outside of your children's presence) but do not expose your children to toxic emotion. Oh yes, and read my book.

3. How can a person de-escalate the conflict between themselves and their ex-spouse?

It takes two people to fight. The key to de-scalation is ignoring insult and offering reasonable compromises. This takes practice because often, in poor co-parenting relationships people cannot resist the urge to fight fire with fire. Actually to continue the imagery, it is best to fight fire with water. Parents often ask, "Why shoud I give the co-parent what he/she wants?" The answer to this is "because when you can, and when it doesn't much matter one way or the other (i.e. an extra few minutes here and there) the reduction in conflict benefits the kids."

4. What is the "package" that can make a difference in the quality of communication between the ex-spouses?

Resist the urge to "dig" or "poke" with sarcasm and direct insults. Understand that if you hate the co-parent, it is more difficult to love the part of your child that came from the co-parent. Take relief in the fact that any communication you have with the co-parent has a beginning and an end (at least for the moment) and when the contact is over you don't have to go back home and sleep with them.

5. Can you share with us some practical tips for negotiating with a former spouse who is a jerk?
Again, realize that giving in on minor issues is not a sign of personal weakness; on the contrary it is s sign of strength. Understand that what makes people as difficult as they are is that they "enjoy the fight." Fighting, bickering and nitpicking is feeding a part of them that they enjoy -- and that most likely y...

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