dad dads
Returning User? Login Here

Divorce Counseling Buzzards Bay MA

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. Read on for more.

Dr. Phoebe Speck
Phoebe B. Speck, PhD
(508) 540-7107
225 Moorland Road
Falmouth, MA
Credentials
Credentials: PhD, LICSW
Licensed in Massachusetts
16 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Aging, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Bipolar Disorders, Career/Employment Concerns, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Dissociative Disorders, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Obsessive/Compulsive Disorder, Parenting Issues, Phobi
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), Children of Divorce, Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual, Caregivers, Step Families, Gifted, Cancer Patients, Interracial Families/Couples, Grandparents
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59), Seniors (60 +)

Data Provided By:
Mr. Mark Dunay
Harbor Counseling Assoc., Inc.
(508) 746-8886
340 Court Street
Plymouth, MA
Credentials
Credentials: LICSW, LADC1
Licensed in Massachusetts
36 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Addictions/Other (gambling, sex, etc.), Addictions/Substance, Aging, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Attention Deficit (Hyperactivity) Disorder, Behavioral Problems, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Eating Disorders, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpers
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), Children of Divorce, Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual, Military/Veterans, Step Families, Chronic Illness
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59), Seniors (60 +)

Data Provided By:
Mrs. Christine M. Showalter
(508) 928-5149
184 A Jones Road
Falmouth, MA
Specialties
Relationship Issues, Depression, Divorce
Qualification
School: Antioch NE Grad School
Year of Graduation: 1999
Years In Practice: 10+ Years
Patient Info
Ethnicity: Any
Gender: Female
Age: Adolescents,Adults
Payment Methods
Sliding Scale: Yes
Accepts Credit Cards: No
Accepted Insurance Plans: Aetna

Ms. Barbara M Maurer
(508) 928-5076
901 Main St
Osterville, MA
Specialties
Relationship Issues, Divorce, Stepfamily issues
Qualification
School: Auburn University
Year of Graduation: 1980
Years In Practice: 20+ Years
Patient Info
Ethnicity: Any
Gender: All
Average Cost
$110 - $150
Payment Methods
Sliding Scale: No
Accepted Insurance Plans: BlueCross and/or BlueShield

Mrs. Christine M. Showalter
(508) 928-5149
Christine M. Showalter, LMFT27 Robert J. Way
Plymouth, MA
Specialties
Relationship Issues, Depression, Divorce
Qualification
School: Antioch NE Grad School
Year of Graduation: 1999
Years In Practice: 10+ Years
Patient Info
Ethnicity: Any
Gender: All
Age: Adolescents / Teenagers (14 to 19),Adults
Payment Methods
Sliding Scale: Yes
Accepts Credit Cards: No
Accepted Insurance Plans: Aetna

Ms. Barbara Blair
private practice
(508) 457-7509
230 Main Street
Falmouth, MA
Credentials
Credentials: LICSW
Licensed in Massachusetts
18 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Behavioral Problems, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Eating Disorders, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Obsessive/Compulsive Disorder, Parenting Issues, Life Transitions, Women's Issues, Postpartum
Populations Served
Children of Divorce
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Preschool (Under 6), Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59), Seniors (60 +)

Data Provided By:
Ms. Debra Golen
(508) 994-0848
222 Union Street Suite 300
New Bedford, MA
Credentials
Credentials: LMHC, LADC I, LSW
Licensed in Massachusetts
20 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Addictions/Other (gambling, sex, etc.), Addictions/Substance, Aging, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Attention Deficit (Hyperactivity) Disorder, Bipolar Disorders, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships,
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), Children of Divorce, Disabled, Alzheimer's, Step Families, Gifted, Chronic Illness
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59), Seniors (60 +)

Data Provided By:
Mary Katz
(508) 681-9444
Falmouth, MA
Practice Areas
Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Ms. Judith Iadarola Caron
(508) 746-9121
Plymouth Psychotherapy146 Court Street
Plymouth, MA
Specialties
Anxiety or Fears, Depression, Divorce, Impulse Control Disorders
Qualification
School: Westfield University
Year of Graduation: 1987
Years In Practice: 15+ Years
Patient Info
Ethnicity: Any
Gender: All
Payment Methods
Sliding Scale: No

john austin, MA,LADC1,CADAC, CEAP, SAP
(774) 487-0824
76 w. maen st
Hyannis, MA
Specialties
Addictions or Substance Abuse,Anxiety or Fears,Depression,Life Coaching,Personality Disorders,Trauma and PTSD
Gender
Male
Education
masters degree
Insurance
No
Membership Organizations
cape cod addiction counseling

Data Provided By:

11 Quick Questions about Divorce

11 Quick Questions About Divorce


1. How does the quality of one's relationship with their ex-spouse influence the psychological adjustment of their children?

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. When parents model angry, selfish and bitter interaction with one another, their children learn that these disrespectful behaviors are the protocol for how people should be treated. It is no wonder that children from high conflict divorce have a higher incidence of failed relationships later in life. I believe this is why.

2. You write, "Smart parenting is all about trading the momentary relief of venting anger and frustration at your co-parent for the benefit of raising healthier, more productive, and less stressed children." How can a parent deal with their anger in a healthy way that does not cause more pain to their children?
Break a clay pot, scream into a pillow, make a voodoo doll out of modeling clay. Do what ever you want (as long as it is legal and outside of your children's presence) but do not expose your children to toxic emotion. Oh yes, and read my book.

3. How can a person de-escalate the conflict between themselves and their ex-spouse?

It takes two people to fight. The key to de-scalation is ignoring insult and offering reasonable compromises. This takes practice because often, in poor co-parenting relationships people cannot resist the urge to fight fire with fire. Actually to continue the imagery, it is best to fight fire with water. Parents often ask, "Why shoud I give the co-parent what he/she wants?" The answer to this is "because when you can, and when it doesn't much matter one way or the other (i.e. an extra few minutes here and there) the reduction in conflict benefits the kids."

4. What is the "package" that can make a difference in the quality of communication between the ex-spouses?

Resist the urge to "dig" or "poke" with sarcasm and direct insults. Understand that if you hate the co-parent, it is more difficult to love the part of your child that came from the co-parent. Take relief in the fact that any communication you have with the co-parent has a beginning and an end (at least for the moment) and when the contact is over you don't have to go back home and sleep with them.

5. Can you share with us some practical tips for negotiating with a former spouse who is a jerk?
Again, realize that giving in on minor issues is not a sign of personal weakness; on the contrary it is s sign of strength. Understand that what makes people as difficult as they are is that they "enjoy the fight." Fighting, bickering and nitpicking is feeding a part of them that they enjoy -- and that most likely y...

Click here to read the rest of this article from GreatDad.com