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Divorce Counseling Cleveland TN

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. Read on for more.

Richard Swistek
(423) 476-1933
Cleveland, TN
Practice Areas
Addictions and Dependency, Childhood & Adolescence, Couples & Family, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
Master Addictions Counselor, National Certified Counselor

Jacqueline Hawkins Moore
Cleveland, TN
Practice Areas
Addictions and Dependency, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
Master Addictions Counselor, National Certified Counselor

Louis Pflueger
(423) 238-7111
Mcdonald, TN
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Couples & Family
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Robert Swope
(423) 838-2593
Chattanooga, TN
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill, Supervision
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Brandon Santan
(423) 855-0402
Chattanooga, TN
Practice Areas
Addictions and Dependency, Career Development, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Robert Golan
(423) 715-5298
Cleveland, TN
Practice Areas
Addictions and Dependency, Childhood & Adolescence, Couples & Family, Sports Counseling, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Michael Ream
(423) 728-7077
Cleveland, TN
Practice Areas
Addictions and Dependency, Childhood & Adolescence, Corrections/Offenders, Couples & Family, Sports Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Nancy Tarrant
(423) 650-3870
Benton, TN
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Ardelle Dickinson
(423) 396-2134
Collegedale, TN
Practice Areas
Addictions and Dependency, Eating Disorders, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Judith Coyle
(423) 855-0402
Chattanooga, TN
Practice Areas
Counselor Education, Aging/Gerontological, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill, Supervision
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

11 Quick Questions about Divorce

11 Quick Questions About Divorce


1. How does the quality of one's relationship with their ex-spouse influence the psychological adjustment of their children?

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. When parents model angry, selfish and bitter interaction with one another, their children learn that these disrespectful behaviors are the protocol for how people should be treated. It is no wonder that children from high conflict divorce have a higher incidence of failed relationships later in life. I believe this is why.

2. You write, "Smart parenting is all about trading the momentary relief of venting anger and frustration at your co-parent for the benefit of raising healthier, more productive, and less stressed children." How can a parent deal with their anger in a healthy way that does not cause more pain to their children?
Break a clay pot, scream into a pillow, make a voodoo doll out of modeling clay. Do what ever you want (as long as it is legal and outside of your children's presence) but do not expose your children to toxic emotion. Oh yes, and read my book.

3. How can a person de-escalate the conflict between themselves and their ex-spouse?

It takes two people to fight. The key to de-scalation is ignoring insult and offering reasonable compromises. This takes practice because often, in poor co-parenting relationships people cannot resist the urge to fight fire with fire. Actually to continue the imagery, it is best to fight fire with water. Parents often ask, "Why shoud I give the co-parent what he/she wants?" The answer to this is "because when you can, and when it doesn't much matter one way or the other (i.e. an extra few minutes here and there) the reduction in conflict benefits the kids."

4. What is the "package" that can make a difference in the quality of communication between the ex-spouses?

Resist the urge to "dig" or "poke" with sarcasm and direct insults. Understand that if you hate the co-parent, it is more difficult to love the part of your child that came from the co-parent. Take relief in the fact that any communication you have with the co-parent has a beginning and an end (at least for the moment) and when the contact is over you don't have to go back home and sleep with them.

5. Can you share with us some practical tips for negotiating with a former spouse who is a jerk?
Again, realize that giving in on minor issues is not a sign of personal weakness; on the contrary it is s sign of strength. Understand that what makes people as difficult as they are is that they "enjoy the fight." Fighting, bickering and nitpicking is feeding a part of them that they enjoy -- and that most likely y...

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Tennessee Legal Requirements for Divorce

Waiting Period
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"No Fault" Grounds for Divorce
Separation of 2 yrs. with no minor children; irreconcilable differences.

Residency Requirements
No residency required if acts committed while plaintiff was resident; or if grounds arose out of state and plaintiff or defendant has resided in state 6 months preceding filing (1 yr. prior for military personnel or spouse).

Defenses to a Divorce Filing
For adultery, defense if complainant guilt of like act, or had sex with spouse after adultery with knowledge; or husband solicited wife for prostitution or exposed her to lewd society that ensnared her to adultery.

Code Section
36-4-101, et seq.

Other Grounds for Divorce
Adultery; cruelty or violence including attempted murder of the other; desertion for 1 yr. or absent state for 2 yrs.; drug/alcohol addiction; impotency; pregnant at time of marriage by another man, without knowledge of husband; offers indignities that renders other spouse's condition/life intolerable, conviction of infamous crime or felony; previous marriage unresolved; also irreconcilable differences; lived separately without cohabitation for 2 continuous years and there are no minor children; abandonment or refusing/neglecting to provide when having the ability to do so.

From www.statelaws.findlaw.com