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Divorce Counseling Concord NH

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. Read on for more.

Connie Robillard, MA LCMHC
(603) 432-0581, (603) 224-4332
80 Nashua Road, Londonderry NH 03053 ~or~ 214 S. Ma
Concord, NH
Specialties
Conjoint Couples Counseling and psychotherapy. Women''s issues, grief, loss, depression, PTSD, Trauma and recovery.

Jolen Aubin
(603) 228-0547
Pembroke, NH
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Couples & Family, School, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Judy Jepson-Hebert
(603) 244-3660
1106 Hooksett Rd
Hooksett, NH
Specialties
Relationship Issues, Depression, Divorce
Qualification
School: Boston University
Year of Graduation: 1997
Years In Practice: 10+ Years
Patient Info
Ethnicity: Any
Gender: All
Age: Adolescents / Teenagers (14 to 19),Adults
Average Cost
$80 - $100
Payment Methods
Sliding Scale: Yes
Accepts Credit Cards: No
Accepted Insurance Plans: Aetna

Cynthia Harmelink
(603) 661-9235
Manchester, NH
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

James Foster & Associates, Ltd Counseling NH
(603) 668-7744
540 Chestnut Street, Suite 102
Manchester, NH
Specialties
Individual, Marriage, Family,Anger Management, Domestic Violence & Trauma

Olson, Kirke Psychologist
(603) 226-1999
33 Warren Street
Concord, NH
 
Faith E Sillars
Pittsyield, NH
Practice Areas
Clinical Mental Health, Eating Disorders, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Christine Lavoie
(603) 836-5003
Manchester, NH
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, School, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Paul E Groleau
(603) 625-8588
Manchester, NH
Practice Areas
Clinical Mental Health, Aging/Gerontological, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
Certified Clinical Mental Health Counselor, National Certified Counselor
Language Proficiencies
French

Ms. Nancy McLane
NC McLane Counseling Services, PLLC
(603) 332-2377
1 Wakefield Street Suite 223
Rochester, NH
Credentials
Credentials: LICSW
Licensed in New Hampshire
8 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Aging, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Behavioral Problems, Career/Employment Concerns, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Infertility, Interpersonal Relationships, Obsessive/Compulsive Disorder, Parenting Issues, Phobias, Physi
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), Children of Divorce, Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual, Military/Veterans, Disabled, Alzheimer's, Caregivers, Step Families, Gifted, Chronic Illness, Cancer Patients
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59), Seniors (60 +)

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11 Quick Questions about Divorce

11 Quick Questions About Divorce


1. How does the quality of one's relationship with their ex-spouse influence the psychological adjustment of their children?

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. When parents model angry, selfish and bitter interaction with one another, their children learn that these disrespectful behaviors are the protocol for how people should be treated. It is no wonder that children from high conflict divorce have a higher incidence of failed relationships later in life. I believe this is why.

2. You write, "Smart parenting is all about trading the momentary relief of venting anger and frustration at your co-parent for the benefit of raising healthier, more productive, and less stressed children." How can a parent deal with their anger in a healthy way that does not cause more pain to their children?
Break a clay pot, scream into a pillow, make a voodoo doll out of modeling clay. Do what ever you want (as long as it is legal and outside of your children's presence) but do not expose your children to toxic emotion. Oh yes, and read my book.

3. How can a person de-escalate the conflict between themselves and their ex-spouse?

It takes two people to fight. The key to de-scalation is ignoring insult and offering reasonable compromises. This takes practice because often, in poor co-parenting relationships people cannot resist the urge to fight fire with fire. Actually to continue the imagery, it is best to fight fire with water. Parents often ask, "Why shoud I give the co-parent what he/she wants?" The answer to this is "because when you can, and when it doesn't much matter one way or the other (i.e. an extra few minutes here and there) the reduction in conflict benefits the kids."

4. What is the "package" that can make a difference in the quality of communication between the ex-spouses?

Resist the urge to "dig" or "poke" with sarcasm and direct insults. Understand that if you hate the co-parent, it is more difficult to love the part of your child that came from the co-parent. Take relief in the fact that any communication you have with the co-parent has a beginning and an end (at least for the moment) and when the contact is over you don't have to go back home and sleep with them.

5. Can you share with us some practical tips for negotiating with a former spouse who is a jerk?
Again, realize that giving in on minor issues is not a sign of personal weakness; on the contrary it is s sign of strength. Understand that what makes people as difficult as they are is that they "enjoy the fight." Fighting, bickering and nitpicking is feeding a part of them that they enjoy -- and that most likely y...

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New Hampshire Legal Requirements for Divorce

Waiting Period
No special provision

"No Fault" Grounds for Divorce
Irreconcilable differences; separation (absent 2 yrs.)

Residency Requirements
Both parties domiciled or plaintiff was domiciled and defendant was personally served or plaintiff domiciled in state at least 1 yr. before action.

Defenses to a Divorce Filing
Common law defenses: condonation, connivance, recrimination, insanity a factor, but not defense

Code Section
458 et seq.

Other Grounds for Divorce
Adultery; cruelty or violence; drug/alcohol addiction; impotency; nonsupport; unexplained absence (for 2 yrs.); conviction of crime (with imprisonment for more than 1 yr.); joining religious group believing the relation of husband and wife unlawful and refusal to cohabit for 6 mos.; refusal to cohabit for 2 yrs.

From www.statelaws.findlaw.com