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Divorce Counseling Decatur IL

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. Read on for more.

Mrs. Marilyn Stevens
ConnectEdPAIRS
(217) 638-5545
47 7th Drive
Decatur, IL
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in Illinois
30 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Couple or Marital Issues, Family Dysfunction, Interpersonal Relationships, Learning Disabilities, Parenting Issues, Spiritual/Religious Concerns, Stress, Education/Personal Development, Life Transitions, Sexuality Issues
Populations Served
Military/Veterans, Caregivers, Step Families, Interracial Families/Couples
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59), Seniors (60 +)

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Joseph Drew
(217) 877-7224
Decatur, IL
Practice Areas
Addictions and Dependency, Couples & Family, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Dr. Paul Fitzgerald
Paul J. Fitzgerald, LCPC
(708) 337-6936
15 Spinning Wheel Road Suite 422
Hinsdale, IL
Credentials
Credentials: Psy.D, LCPC
Licensed in Illinois
22 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Addictions/Substance, Attention Deficit (Hyperactivity) Disorder, Couple or Marital Issues, Family Dysfunction, Interpersonal Relationships, Life Transitions
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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Ms. Nancy Amos-Schulte
John R. Day and Associates
(309) 692-7755
3716 W. Brighton
Peoria, IL
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW, Ph.D. Candidate
Licensed in Illinois
34 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Aging, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Behavioral Problems, Career/Employment Concerns, Child Abuse and Neglect, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Multicultural Issues, Obsessive/Compulsive Disorder
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), Children of Divorce, Military/Veterans, Offenders/Perpetrators, Twins, Alzheimer's, Caregivers, Step Families, Gifted, Chronic Illness, Cancer Patients, Interracial Families/Couples, Biracial, Grandparents, College Stud
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Preschool (Under 6), Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59), Seniors (60 +)

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Ms. Sharon Ganellen
Sharon Ganellen, LCSW
(847) 736-2814
4711 Golf
Skokie, IL
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in Illinois
23 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Couple or Marital Issues, Family Dysfunction, Interpersonal Relationships, Parenting Issues, Women's Issues
Populations Served
Children of Divorce, Gifted, Cancer Patients
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Children (6-12), Adults (26-59)

Data Provided By:
Kathryn Butler
(217) 425-9931
Decatur, IL
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Rebecca Bower-Armstrong
(217) 362-6262
Decatur, IL
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Couples & Family
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Ms. Carol Cann
Carol Cann Counseling
(847) 606-3046
2530 Crawford Avenue
Evanston, IL
Credentials
Credentials: MA, LCPC, CADC
Licensed in Illinois
26 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Addictions/Other (gambling, sex, etc.), Addictions/Substance, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Bipolar Disorders, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Interpersonal Relationships, Psychoses/Major Mental Illness, Stress, Dual Diagnosis, Persona
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics)
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59), Seniors (60 +)

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Ms. Patricia Sullivan
Private Practice
(708) 751-0286
180 N Michigan Ave Suite 2222
Chicago, IL
Credentials
Credentials: MSW, LCSW
Licensed in Illinois
7 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Behavioral Problems, Bipolar Disorders, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Multicultural Issues, Parenting Issues, Stress, Education/Personal Development, Life Transit
Populations Served
Children of Divorce, Caregivers
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59), Seniors (60 +)

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Ms. Leslie Reambeault
INSIDEOUT
(773) 230-5109
5115 N. Ravenswood Ave. Flr 2
Chicago, IL
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in Illinois
11 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Depression, Dissociative Disorders, Domestic Violence, Family Dysfunction, Interpersonal Relationships, Multicultural Issues, Obsessive/Compulsive Disorder, Self Abuse, Sexual Disorders, Sexual Orientation, Spiritual/Religious Conc
Populations Served
Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Adults (26-59), Seniors (60 +)

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11 Quick Questions about Divorce

11 Quick Questions About Divorce


1. How does the quality of one's relationship with their ex-spouse influence the psychological adjustment of their children?

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. When parents model angry, selfish and bitter interaction with one another, their children learn that these disrespectful behaviors are the protocol for how people should be treated. It is no wonder that children from high conflict divorce have a higher incidence of failed relationships later in life. I believe this is why.

2. You write, "Smart parenting is all about trading the momentary relief of venting anger and frustration at your co-parent for the benefit of raising healthier, more productive, and less stressed children." How can a parent deal with their anger in a healthy way that does not cause more pain to their children?
Break a clay pot, scream into a pillow, make a voodoo doll out of modeling clay. Do what ever you want (as long as it is legal and outside of your children's presence) but do not expose your children to toxic emotion. Oh yes, and read my book.

3. How can a person de-escalate the conflict between themselves and their ex-spouse?

It takes two people to fight. The key to de-scalation is ignoring insult and offering reasonable compromises. This takes practice because often, in poor co-parenting relationships people cannot resist the urge to fight fire with fire. Actually to continue the imagery, it is best to fight fire with water. Parents often ask, "Why shoud I give the co-parent what he/she wants?" The answer to this is "because when you can, and when it doesn't much matter one way or the other (i.e. an extra few minutes here and there) the reduction in conflict benefits the kids."

4. What is the "package" that can make a difference in the quality of communication between the ex-spouses?

Resist the urge to "dig" or "poke" with sarcasm and direct insults. Understand that if you hate the co-parent, it is more difficult to love the part of your child that came from the co-parent. Take relief in the fact that any communication you have with the co-parent has a beginning and an end (at least for the moment) and when the contact is over you don't have to go back home and sleep with them.

5. Can you share with us some practical tips for negotiating with a former spouse who is a jerk?
Again, realize that giving in on minor issues is not a sign of personal weakness; on the contrary it is s sign of strength. Understand that what makes people as difficult as they are is that they "enjoy the fight." Fighting, bickering and nitpicking is feeding a part of them that they enjoy -- and that most likely y...

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