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Divorce Counseling Eugene OR

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. Read on for more.

Mrs. Paula Levinrad
(541) 343-1937
1193 Pearl street
Eugene, OR
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in Oregon
6 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Addictions/Other (gambling, sex, etc.), Addictions/Substance, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Parenting Issues, Pregnancy/Childbirth, Sexual Abuse/Rape, Stress, Trauma/PTSD, Dual Diagnosis, Life Transitions, Women's Issues
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), Children of Divorce, Caregivers, College Students
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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Nancy Fletcher
(541) 683-4137
Eugene, OR
Practice Areas
Aging/Gerontological, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill, Supervision
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Roland Hathway
(541) 343-1937
Eugene, OR
Practice Areas
Addictions and Dependency, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Marc Zola
(541) 543-3262
EUGENE, OR
Practice Areas
Career Development, Childhood & Adolescence, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Jordan Shin
(541) 342-8144
Eugene, OR
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor
Language Proficiencies
Korean

Amy-Rose White
(541) 337-4960
Wellmama Pregnancy & Postpartum Services1034 Lawrence St.Eugene, Or 97404
Eugene, OR
 
James Noel Hickie
(541) 242-8772
Eugene, OR
Practice Areas
Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Patricia Hasbach
(541) 345-1410
Eugene, OR
Practice Areas
Clinical Mental Health, Counselor Education, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Healthy Marriages
(541) 338-4408
291 W. 12th Avenue
Eugene, OR
Specialties
Couples Counseling: dating, cohabiting, engaged, married and blended marriage couples of all ages, and parenting issues.

Karen Howell
(541) 914-5930
Eugene, OR
Practice Areas
Addictions and Dependency, Career Development, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

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11 Quick Questions about Divorce

11 Quick Questions About Divorce


1. How does the quality of one's relationship with their ex-spouse influence the psychological adjustment of their children?

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. When parents model angry, selfish and bitter interaction with one another, their children learn that these disrespectful behaviors are the protocol for how people should be treated. It is no wonder that children from high conflict divorce have a higher incidence of failed relationships later in life. I believe this is why.

2. You write, "Smart parenting is all about trading the momentary relief of venting anger and frustration at your co-parent for the benefit of raising healthier, more productive, and less stressed children." How can a parent deal with their anger in a healthy way that does not cause more pain to their children?
Break a clay pot, scream into a pillow, make a voodoo doll out of modeling clay. Do what ever you want (as long as it is legal and outside of your children's presence) but do not expose your children to toxic emotion. Oh yes, and read my book.

3. How can a person de-escalate the conflict between themselves and their ex-spouse?

It takes two people to fight. The key to de-scalation is ignoring insult and offering reasonable compromises. This takes practice because often, in poor co-parenting relationships people cannot resist the urge to fight fire with fire. Actually to continue the imagery, it is best to fight fire with water. Parents often ask, "Why shoud I give the co-parent what he/she wants?" The answer to this is "because when you can, and when it doesn't much matter one way or the other (i.e. an extra few minutes here and there) the reduction in conflict benefits the kids."

4. What is the "package" that can make a difference in the quality of communication between the ex-spouses?

Resist the urge to "dig" or "poke" with sarcasm and direct insults. Understand that if you hate the co-parent, it is more difficult to love the part of your child that came from the co-parent. Take relief in the fact that any communication you have with the co-parent has a beginning and an end (at least for the moment) and when the contact is over you don't have to go back home and sleep with them.

5. Can you share with us some practical tips for negotiating with a former spouse who is a jerk?
Again, realize that giving in on minor issues is not a sign of personal weakness; on the contrary it is s sign of strength. Understand that what makes people as difficult as they are is that they "enjoy the fight." Fighting, bickering and nitpicking is feeding a part of them that they enjoy -- and that most likely y...

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Oregon Legal Requirements for Divorce

Waiting Period
Decree final immediately; no trial until 90 days after service (unless emergency).

"No Fault" Grounds for Divorce
Irremedial breakdown; separation for 1 yr.

Residency Requirements
One party resident for 6 months prior unless marriage solemnized in state, either is resident at time of filing, dissolution based on void marriage.

Defenses to a Divorce Filing
Abolished by §107.036.

Code Section
107 et seq.

Other Grounds for Divorce
When either party was incapable of making contract or consenting for want of legal age or sufficient understanding. Doctrines of fault and in pari delicto abolished by §107.036

From www.statelaws.findlaw.com