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Divorce Counseling Festus MO

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. Read on for more.

Theresa Eschmann
(636) 931-4206
Saint Louis, MO
Practice Areas
Addictions and Dependency, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Amie L Merz
(636) 937-7727
Festus, MO
Practice Areas
Addictions and Dependency, Childhood & Adolescence, Couples & Family, School, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Jo Ann Owen
(636) 464-1915
Arnold, MO
Practice Areas
Clinical Mental Health, Eating Disorders, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified Counselor
Language Proficiencies
French

Mrs. Cindy Eisenbeis
Main Street Counseling, LLC
(636) 498-0700
1284 Jungerman Rd Suite B
St. Peters, MO
Credentials
Credentials: MSW, LCSW
Licensed in Missouri
12 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Adoption/Foster Care, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Behavioral Problems, Bipolar Disorders, Child Abuse and Neglect, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Developmental Disability, Domestic Violence, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships,
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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Ms. Michelle Salois
Michelle Salois LCSW
(314) 827-5279
8420 Delmar Ste 209
St. Louis, MO
Credentials
Credentials: RN, LCSW
Licensed in Missouri
22 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Behavioral Problems, Bipolar Disorders, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Dissociative Disorders, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Parenting Issues, Self Abuse, Sexual Abuse/Rape, Sexual Orientation, Spiritual/Religious Conc
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59), Seniors (60 +)

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Julia Bahr
(636) 931-0300
Festus, MO
Practice Areas
Addictions and Dependency, Childhood & Adolescence, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Barbara Joyce Becherer
(314) 623-7575
Hillsboro, MO
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Counselor Education, Eating Disorders, Couples & Family, School
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Carol Austin
(314) 744-5324
Saint Louis, MO
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Counselor Education, Couples & Family
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Mrs. Holly Schmitt
Embracing Change, Inc: Counseling, Life Coaching & Ceremony
(636) 239-1117
426 E. 5th St.
Washington, MO
Credentials
Credentials: MSW, ACSW, LCSW
Licensed in Missouri
26 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Addictions/Other (gambling, sex, etc.), Addictions/Substance, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Attention Deficit (Hyperactivity) Disorder, Behavioral Problems, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Interpersonal Relationships, Multicultural Iss
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), Children of Divorce, Disabled, Caregivers, Step Families, Gifted, Grandparents
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Preschool (Under 6), Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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Mr. Lawrence Ulm
Counseling Associates of Mid-Missouri
(573) 556-6299
398 Dix Road, Ste101
Jefferson City, MO
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in Missouri
45 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Attention Deficit (Hyperactivity) Disorder, Behavioral Problems, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Interpersonal Relationships, Parenting Issues, Stress, Trauma/PTSD, Personality Disorders, Anger Management
Populations Served
Children of Divorce
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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11 Quick Questions about Divorce

11 Quick Questions About Divorce


1. How does the quality of one's relationship with their ex-spouse influence the psychological adjustment of their children?

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. When parents model angry, selfish and bitter interaction with one another, their children learn that these disrespectful behaviors are the protocol for how people should be treated. It is no wonder that children from high conflict divorce have a higher incidence of failed relationships later in life. I believe this is why.

2. You write, "Smart parenting is all about trading the momentary relief of venting anger and frustration at your co-parent for the benefit of raising healthier, more productive, and less stressed children." How can a parent deal with their anger in a healthy way that does not cause more pain to their children?
Break a clay pot, scream into a pillow, make a voodoo doll out of modeling clay. Do what ever you want (as long as it is legal and outside of your children's presence) but do not expose your children to toxic emotion. Oh yes, and read my book.

3. How can a person de-escalate the conflict between themselves and their ex-spouse?

It takes two people to fight. The key to de-scalation is ignoring insult and offering reasonable compromises. This takes practice because often, in poor co-parenting relationships people cannot resist the urge to fight fire with fire. Actually to continue the imagery, it is best to fight fire with water. Parents often ask, "Why shoud I give the co-parent what he/she wants?" The answer to this is "because when you can, and when it doesn't much matter one way or the other (i.e. an extra few minutes here and there) the reduction in conflict benefits the kids."

4. What is the "package" that can make a difference in the quality of communication between the ex-spouses?

Resist the urge to "dig" or "poke" with sarcasm and direct insults. Understand that if you hate the co-parent, it is more difficult to love the part of your child that came from the co-parent. Take relief in the fact that any communication you have with the co-parent has a beginning and an end (at least for the moment) and when the contact is over you don't have to go back home and sleep with them.

5. Can you share with us some practical tips for negotiating with a former spouse who is a jerk?
Again, realize that giving in on minor issues is not a sign of personal weakness; on the contrary it is s sign of strength. Understand that what makes people as difficult as they are is that they "enjoy the fight." Fighting, bickering and nitpicking is feeding a part of them that they enjoy -- and that most likely y...

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