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Divorce Counseling Greer SC

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. Read on for more.

Robert Kimberly
(864) 439-0259
Duncan, SC
Practice Areas
Couples & Family, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Jim Spearman
(864) 613-5599
Clinical Assessment Services
Greenville, SC
Specialties
Depression, Divorce, Family Conflict, Impulse Control Disorders
Qualification
Years In Practice: 20+ Years
Patient Info
Ethnicity: Any
Gender: All
Payment Methods
Sliding Scale: No

Dr. Susan Hendley
(864) 280-7147
Sterlingworth Center of the Upstate1200 Woodruff Rd
Greenville, SC
Specialties
Child or Adolescent, Parenting, Divorce
Qualification
School: The Florida State University
Year of Graduation: 1983
Years In Practice: 15+ Years
Patient Info
Ethnicity: Any
Gender: Female
Age: Adults,Children
Average Cost
$70 - $80
Payment Methods
Sliding Scale: Yes
Accepts Credit Cards: No

Ms. Karren Peterson
(864) 558-5111
211 Century Dr.
Greenville, SC
Specialties
Divorce, Depression, Life Coaching, Personality Disorders
Qualification
School: Webster University
Year of Graduation: 2004
Years In Practice: 2 Years
Patient Info
Ethnicity: African-American, Any
Gender: Female
Age: Adolescents,Adults,Children,Elders
Average Cost
$70 - $80
Payment Methods
Sliding Scale: Yes
Accepted Insurance Plans: APS Healthcare

Pamela Childers
(864) 979-6311
Simpsonville, SC
Practice Areas
Addictions and Dependency, Childhood & Adolescence, Couples & Family, School, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Dr. Lindsey Frye
(864) 513-1286
45 Greenland Drive
Greenville, SC
Specialties
Impulse Control Disorders
Qualification
School: University of South Carolina
Year of Graduation: 2008
Years In Practice: 3 Years
Patient Info
Ethnicity: Any
Gender: All
Age: Children (6 to 10),Adolescents / Teenagers (14 to 19)
Average Cost
$100 - $130
Payment Methods
Sliding Scale: No
Accepts Credit Cards: No

Heather Cirelli
(864) 901-8892
Greenville, SC
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

James Harbin
(864) 676-9211
Greenville, SC
Practice Areas
Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Candace Dorsey
(864) 271-4291
Greenville, SC
Practice Areas
Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Ronald Reames
(864) 963-4028
Simpsonville, SC
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Disaster Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

11 Quick Questions about Divorce

11 Quick Questions About Divorce


1. How does the quality of one's relationship with their ex-spouse influence the psychological adjustment of their children?

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. When parents model angry, selfish and bitter interaction with one another, their children learn that these disrespectful behaviors are the protocol for how people should be treated. It is no wonder that children from high conflict divorce have a higher incidence of failed relationships later in life. I believe this is why.

2. You write, "Smart parenting is all about trading the momentary relief of venting anger and frustration at your co-parent for the benefit of raising healthier, more productive, and less stressed children." How can a parent deal with their anger in a healthy way that does not cause more pain to their children?
Break a clay pot, scream into a pillow, make a voodoo doll out of modeling clay. Do what ever you want (as long as it is legal and outside of your children's presence) but do not expose your children to toxic emotion. Oh yes, and read my book.

3. How can a person de-escalate the conflict between themselves and their ex-spouse?

It takes two people to fight. The key to de-scalation is ignoring insult and offering reasonable compromises. This takes practice because often, in poor co-parenting relationships people cannot resist the urge to fight fire with fire. Actually to continue the imagery, it is best to fight fire with water. Parents often ask, "Why shoud I give the co-parent what he/she wants?" The answer to this is "because when you can, and when it doesn't much matter one way or the other (i.e. an extra few minutes here and there) the reduction in conflict benefits the kids."

4. What is the "package" that can make a difference in the quality of communication between the ex-spouses?

Resist the urge to "dig" or "poke" with sarcasm and direct insults. Understand that if you hate the co-parent, it is more difficult to love the part of your child that came from the co-parent. Take relief in the fact that any communication you have with the co-parent has a beginning and an end (at least for the moment) and when the contact is over you don't have to go back home and sleep with them.

5. Can you share with us some practical tips for negotiating with a former spouse who is a jerk?
Again, realize that giving in on minor issues is not a sign of personal weakness; on the contrary it is s sign of strength. Understand that what makes people as difficult as they are is that they "enjoy the fight." Fighting, bickering and nitpicking is feeding a part of them that they enjoy -- and that most likely y...

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