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Divorce Counseling Hobbs NM

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. Read on for more.

Ms. Ellen Fox
Ellen J. Shabshai Fox, LISW
(505) 699-4312
2400 Calle Amelia
Santa Fe, NM
Credentials
Credentials: LISW
Licensed in New Mexico
35 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Addictions/Other (gambling, sex, etc.), Addictions/Substance, Aging, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Career/Employment Concerns, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Interpersonal Relationships, Multicultural Issues, Parenting Issues, Phobias
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), Children of Divorce, Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual, Step Families, Gifted, Chronic Illness, Interracial Families/Couples, Obese or Overweight
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59), Seniors (60 +)

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Mr. Matthew David
Matthew David, LPCC
(505) 984-5525
1807 Second Street Suite 44
Santa Fe, NM
Credentials
Credentials: MA, LPCC
Licensed in New Mexico
14 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Addictions/Substance, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Interpersonal Relationships, Spiritual/Religious Concerns, Trauma/PTSD, Life Transitions, Anger Management, Men's Issues
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics)
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Adults (26-59), Seniors (60 +)

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Ms. Aurora Alvarez
CYFD - PSD - I-HS
(575) 882-7900
945 Anthony Dr.
Anthony, NM
Credentials
Credentials: LMSW
Licensed in New Mexico
2 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Child Abuse and Neglect, Family Dysfunction, Parenting Issues
Populations Served
Offenders/Perpetrators
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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Leslie Jones
(575) 562-2211
Portales, NM
Practice Areas
Addictions and Dependency, Childhood & Adolescence, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Durelle Freeman
(575) 388-2717
Silver City, NM
Practice Areas
Clinical Mental Health, Corrections/Offenders, Couples & Family
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Mrs. Jane Rowland
Jane Rowland LISW
(575) 910-4425
500 N. Main Suite 400-J
Roswell, NM
Credentials
Credentials: LISW
Licensed in New Mexico
26 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Bipolar Disorders, Career/Employment Concerns, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Dissociative Disorders, Eating Disorders, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Infertility, Interpersonal Relationships, Obsessive/Compulsive Disorder,
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), Children of Divorce, Caregivers, Step Families
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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Ms. Anika Kelso
Santa Fe Supportive Therapy
(505) 795-6868
2074 Galisteo Street B-3
Santa Fe, NM
Credentials
Credentials: LISW, LCSW
Licensed in New Mexico
5 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Attention Deficit (Hyperactivity) Disorder, Behavioral Problems, Career/Employment Concerns, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Interpersonal Relationships, Parenting Issues, Sexual Orientation, Stress, Gender Identity, Life Transitio
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), Children of Divorce, Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual, Transgendered, Step Families, Grandparents
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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Amy Anna Lashway-Cisneros
(888) 301-9425
Santa Fe, NM
Practice Areas
Addictions and Dependency, Clinical Mental Health, Eating Disorders, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Richard Hiester
(505) 247-1921
Albuquerque, NM
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified Counselor
Language Proficiencies
French

Robert Becher
(505) 291-2046
Albuquerque, NM
Practice Areas
Addictions and Dependency, Childhood & Adolescence, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

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11 Quick Questions about Divorce

11 Quick Questions About Divorce


1. How does the quality of one's relationship with their ex-spouse influence the psychological adjustment of their children?

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. When parents model angry, selfish and bitter interaction with one another, their children learn that these disrespectful behaviors are the protocol for how people should be treated. It is no wonder that children from high conflict divorce have a higher incidence of failed relationships later in life. I believe this is why.

2. You write, "Smart parenting is all about trading the momentary relief of venting anger and frustration at your co-parent for the benefit of raising healthier, more productive, and less stressed children." How can a parent deal with their anger in a healthy way that does not cause more pain to their children?
Break a clay pot, scream into a pillow, make a voodoo doll out of modeling clay. Do what ever you want (as long as it is legal and outside of your children's presence) but do not expose your children to toxic emotion. Oh yes, and read my book.

3. How can a person de-escalate the conflict between themselves and their ex-spouse?

It takes two people to fight. The key to de-scalation is ignoring insult and offering reasonable compromises. This takes practice because often, in poor co-parenting relationships people cannot resist the urge to fight fire with fire. Actually to continue the imagery, it is best to fight fire with water. Parents often ask, "Why shoud I give the co-parent what he/she wants?" The answer to this is "because when you can, and when it doesn't much matter one way or the other (i.e. an extra few minutes here and there) the reduction in conflict benefits the kids."

4. What is the "package" that can make a difference in the quality of communication between the ex-spouses?

Resist the urge to "dig" or "poke" with sarcasm and direct insults. Understand that if you hate the co-parent, it is more difficult to love the part of your child that came from the co-parent. Take relief in the fact that any communication you have with the co-parent has a beginning and an end (at least for the moment) and when the contact is over you don't have to go back home and sleep with them.

5. Can you share with us some practical tips for negotiating with a former spouse who is a jerk?
Again, realize that giving in on minor issues is not a sign of personal weakness; on the contrary it is s sign of strength. Understand that what makes people as difficult as they are is that they "enjoy the fight." Fighting, bickering and nitpicking is feeding a part of them that they enjoy -- and that most likely y...

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