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Divorce Counseling Hood River OR

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. Read on for more.

Shirley DeArmond
(509) 493-4660
White Salmon, WA
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill, Disaster Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Mr. Robert Gitelson
Robert Gitelson, LCSW
(503) 318-2212
4720 River Rd. North
Keizer, OR
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in Oregon
20 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Attention Deficit (Hyperactivity) Disorder, Behavioral Problems, Bipolar Disorders, Child Abuse and Neglect, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Parenting Issues, Sexua
Populations Served
Children of Divorce, Step Families
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Preschool (Under 6), Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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Ms. Susanna Wood
Susanna J. Wood, M.S.W., LCSW
(541) 690-5602
The Sharing Place 14 Cottage Street
Medford, OR
Credentials
Credentials: M.S.W., LCSW
Licensed in Oregon
25 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Behavioral Problems, Bipolar Disorders, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Eating Disorders, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Pain Management, Parenting Issues, Phobias, Physical Illness/Impairment, S
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), Children of Divorce, Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual, Disabled, Caregivers, Step Families, Gifted, Chronic Illness, Cancer Patients, Interracial Families/Couples, Biracial, Obese or Overweight
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59), Seniors (60 +)

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Mrs. Sheila Walty
Center for Personal Growth and Professional Development
(503) 842-7855
1900 spyglass ct
Tillamook, OR
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in Oregon
22 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Career/Employment Concerns, Child Abuse and Neglect, Couple or Marital Issues, Dissociative Disorders, Domestic Violence, Family Dysfunction, Interpersonal Relationships, Phobias, Self Abuse, Sexual Abuse/Rape, Stress, Trauma/PTSD,
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics)
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

Data Provided By:
Ms. Jennifer Lopas
Jennifer Lopas LCSW, LLC
(503) 250-1188
1020 SW Taylor St., Suite 250
Portland, OR
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in Oregon
10 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Addictions/Substance, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Career/Employment Concerns, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Physical Illness/Impairment, Pregnancy/Childbirth, Sexual Abuse/Rape, Stress, Trau
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), Chronic Illness
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

Data Provided By:
Gray-Davis Donna
(541) 386-4450
1942 12th St
Hood River, OR

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Ms. Candice Everett
Candice Everett, LCSW
(503) 221-1125
1815 NW Flanders, Suite 202
Portland, OR
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in Oregon
34 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Depression, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Education/Personal Development, Life Transitions, Women's Issues
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), Caregivers
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

Data Provided By:
Ms. Susan Waterman
Susan Waterman, LCSW, CADC III
(541) 772-2791
107 East Main Street Suite 7
Medford, OR
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW, CADC III
Licensed in Oregon
28 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Addictions/Substance, Aging, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Pain Management, Parenting Issues, Sexual Abuse/Rape, Spiritual/Religious Concerns, Stress, Trauma/PTSD
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), Children of Divorce, Step Families, Chronic Illness
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59), Seniors (60 +)

Data Provided By:
Ms. Kelley Chimenti
Sunset Psychological & Counseling Services
(503) 292-1885
9900 SW Wilshire St., Suite 230
Portland, OR
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in Oregon
9 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Couple or Marital Issues, Family Dysfunction, Sexual Abuse/Rape, Sexual Disorders
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Adolescents (13-17), Adults (26-59)

Data Provided By:
Ms. Jana Svoboda
(541) 758-0225
760 SW Madison Suite 205
Corvallis, OR
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in Oregon
25 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Attention Deficit (Hyperactivity) Disorder, Behavioral Problems, Bipolar Disorders, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Interpersonal Relationships, Obsessive/Compulsive Disorder, Parenting Issues, Stress, Trauma/PTSD, Education/Person
Populations Served
Chronic Illness
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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11 Quick Questions about Divorce

11 Quick Questions About Divorce


1. How does the quality of one's relationship with their ex-spouse influence the psychological adjustment of their children?

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. When parents model angry, selfish and bitter interaction with one another, their children learn that these disrespectful behaviors are the protocol for how people should be treated. It is no wonder that children from high conflict divorce have a higher incidence of failed relationships later in life. I believe this is why.

2. You write, "Smart parenting is all about trading the momentary relief of venting anger and frustration at your co-parent for the benefit of raising healthier, more productive, and less stressed children." How can a parent deal with their anger in a healthy way that does not cause more pain to their children?
Break a clay pot, scream into a pillow, make a voodoo doll out of modeling clay. Do what ever you want (as long as it is legal and outside of your children's presence) but do not expose your children to toxic emotion. Oh yes, and read my book.

3. How can a person de-escalate the conflict between themselves and their ex-spouse?

It takes two people to fight. The key to de-scalation is ignoring insult and offering reasonable compromises. This takes practice because often, in poor co-parenting relationships people cannot resist the urge to fight fire with fire. Actually to continue the imagery, it is best to fight fire with water. Parents often ask, "Why shoud I give the co-parent what he/she wants?" The answer to this is "because when you can, and when it doesn't much matter one way or the other (i.e. an extra few minutes here and there) the reduction in conflict benefits the kids."

4. What is the "package" that can make a difference in the quality of communication between the ex-spouses?

Resist the urge to "dig" or "poke" with sarcasm and direct insults. Understand that if you hate the co-parent, it is more difficult to love the part of your child that came from the co-parent. Take relief in the fact that any communication you have with the co-parent has a beginning and an end (at least for the moment) and when the contact is over you don't have to go back home and sleep with them.

5. Can you share with us some practical tips for negotiating with a former spouse who is a jerk?
Again, realize that giving in on minor issues is not a sign of personal weakness; on the contrary it is s sign of strength. Understand that what makes people as difficult as they are is that they "enjoy the fight." Fighting, bickering and nitpicking is feeding a part of them that they enjoy -- and that most likely y...

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