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Divorce Counseling Juneau AK

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. Read on for more.

Clement Gary Lpc
(907) 790-9611
9000 Glacier Hwy Ste 204
Juneau, AK
 
Kevin Wickenburg, Ncmt
(907) 209-4544
114 S Franklin St Ste 103
Juneau, AK
 
Hurley Teresa Lcsw
(907) 790-1000
9000 Glacier Hwy Ste 304
Juneau, AK
 
Hayes Virginia
(907) 586-2354
301 3rd St
Juneau, AK
 
Wells Karen Ma/Lpc Counselor
(907) 586-8912
9851 Nine Mile Creek Rd J
Juneau, AK
 
Community Christian Counseling Center
(907) 789-9055
11024 Auke Lake Way
Juneau, AK
 
Aware
(907) 586-6623
1547 Old Glacier Hwy
Juneau, AK
 
Integral Practice Llc
(907) 790-4357
3100 Channel Dr Ste 24
Juneau, AK
 
Hood Dixie Ma Counselor
(907) 586-2200
222 Seward St Ste 210
Juneau, AK
 
Catholic Community Service
(907) 463-6100
419 6th St
Juneau, AK
 

11 Quick Questions about Divorce

11 Quick Questions About Divorce


1. How does the quality of one's relationship with their ex-spouse influence the psychological adjustment of their children?

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. When parents model angry, selfish and bitter interaction with one another, their children learn that these disrespectful behaviors are the protocol for how people should be treated. It is no wonder that children from high conflict divorce have a higher incidence of failed relationships later in life. I believe this is why.

2. You write, "Smart parenting is all about trading the momentary relief of venting anger and frustration at your co-parent for the benefit of raising healthier, more productive, and less stressed children." How can a parent deal with their anger in a healthy way that does not cause more pain to their children?
Break a clay pot, scream into a pillow, make a voodoo doll out of modeling clay. Do what ever you want (as long as it is legal and outside of your children's presence) but do not expose your children to toxic emotion. Oh yes, and read my book.

3. How can a person de-escalate the conflict between themselves and their ex-spouse?

It takes two people to fight. The key to de-scalation is ignoring insult and offering reasonable compromises. This takes practice because often, in poor co-parenting relationships people cannot resist the urge to fight fire with fire. Actually to continue the imagery, it is best to fight fire with water. Parents often ask, "Why shoud I give the co-parent what he/she wants?" The answer to this is "because when you can, and when it doesn't much matter one way or the other (i.e. an extra few minutes here and there) the reduction in conflict benefits the kids."

4. What is the "package" that can make a difference in the quality of communication between the ex-spouses?

Resist the urge to "dig" or "poke" with sarcasm and direct insults. Understand that if you hate the co-parent, it is more difficult to love the part of your child that came from the co-parent. Take relief in the fact that any communication you have with the co-parent has a beginning and an end (at least for the moment) and when the contact is over you don't have to go back home and sleep with them.

5. Can you share with us some practical tips for negotiating with a former spouse who is a jerk?
Again, realize that giving in on minor issues is not a sign of personal weakness; on the contrary it is s sign of strength. Understand that what makes people as difficult as they are is that they "enjoy the fight." Fighting, bickering and nitpicking is feeding a part of them that they enjoy -- and that most likely y...

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Alaska Legal Requirements for Divorce

Waiting Period
-

"No Fault" Grounds for Divorce
-

Residency Requirements
Plaintiff must be resident for any amount of time

Defenses to a Divorce Filing
For adultery, procurement, connivance, express or implied forgiveness, dual guilt, or waiting over 2 yrs. to bring action; procurement or express forgiveness is defense to any other ground.

Code Section
25.24.050; 25.24.080; 25.24.120, 130, 200, 210

Other Grounds for Divorce
Adultery; cruelty or violence; willful desertion for 1 yr.; drug/alcohol addiction; conviction of felony; failure to consummate; incompatible temperament; incurable mental illness (confined to institution for at least 18 mos. prior to divorce action).

From www.statelaws.findlaw.com