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Divorce Counseling Kearny NJ

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. Read on for more.

Mrs. Nicole Alvarez
Prime Counseling, LLC
(973) 235-1107
187 Washington Ave. Suite 2C
Nutley, NJ
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in New Jersey
10 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Interpersonal Relationships, Parenting Issues, Trauma/PTSD
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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Ms. Barbara Holton
Barbara A. Holton, LCSW
(973) 783-8313
103 Park Street Suite 4
Montclair, NJ
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in New Jersey
20 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Adoption/Foster Care, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Attention Deficit (Hyperactivity) Disorder, Behavioral Problems, Bipolar Disorders, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Infertility, Interpersonal Relationships, Learning Disa
Populations Served
Children of Divorce, Gifted, Interracial Families/Couples
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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Ms. Barbara 'Basia' Mosinski
Art Psychotherapy
(917) 703-3414
80 5th Ave, 903B
New York, NY
Credentials
Credentials: LCAT, ATR-BC, MA, MFA
Licensed in New York
10 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Depression, Dissociative Disorders, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Sexual Abuse/Rape, Stress, Trauma/PTSD, Dual Diagnosis, Life Transitions, Attachment Disorders
Populations Served
Military/Veterans, College Students
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59), Seniors (60 +)

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Mr. Joseph Madonia
Joseph Madonia
(718) 279-9572
560 West 43rd street Suite 39C, NY NY 10036
New York, NY
Credentials
Credentials: LICSW, CASAC
15 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Addictions/Other (gambling, sex, etc.), Addictions/Substance, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Attention Deficit (Hyperactivity) Disorder, Behavioral Problems, Bipolar Disorders, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Forensic, Obsessive/Compulsive Disorder, Psychoses/Ma
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), AIDS/HIV+, Children of Divorce, Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual, Offenders/Perpetrators, Obese or Overweight
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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Dr. Phoebe Farber
(917) 353-5965
49 park Street
Montclair, NJ
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW, Ph.D.
Licensed in New Jersey
15 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Stress, Life Transitions
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

Data Provided By:
Ms. Alison Dye
(845) 594-5174
138 West 25th Street 8th Floor, Room B-9
New York, NY
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in New York
35 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Addictions/Substance, Aging, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Depression, Domestic Violence, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Sexual Abuse/Rape, Sexual Orientation, Stress, Trauma/PTSD, Education/Personal Development, Gender Identity, L
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), Children of Divorce, Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual, Caregivers, Grandparents
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59), Seniors (60 +)

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Ms. Evelyn Goris
Evelyn M. Goris
(917) 374-8358
244 Fifth Avenue, Suite 8F
New York, NY
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in New York
33 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Multicultural Issues, Obsessive/Compulsive Disorder, Parenting Issues, Phobias, Physical Illness/Impairment, Pregnancy/Childbirth, S
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), Children of Divorce, Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual, Immigrants/Refugees, Caregivers, Step Families, Chronic Illness, Cancer Patients, Interracial Families/Couples, Biracial, Grandparents
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59), Seniors (60 +)

Data Provided By:
Mr. Jose Perez
Jose M. Perez, MA, LMFT
(973) 900-0005
311 Claremont Avenue
Montclair, NJ
Credentials
Credentials: MA, LMFT
Licensed in New Jersey
Problems Served
Couple or Marital Issues, Family Dysfunction, Interpersonal Relationships, Multicultural Issues, Sexuality Issues
Populations Served
AIDS/HIV+, Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual, Immigrants/Refugees
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Adults (26-59)

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Ms. Shelley Messing
Private Practice
(212) 229-2421
80 Fifth Avenue Suite 1107
New York, NY
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW, BCD
Licensed in New York
28 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Couple or Marital Issues, Dissociative Disorders, Family Dysfunction, Interpersonal Relationships, Parenting Issues, Sexual Abuse/Rape, Stress, Trauma/PTSD, Women's Issues
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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Dr. Kelly Mason
New York Wellness Group
(347) 497-3741
130 Fifth Avenue Suite 900
New York, NY
Credentials
Credentials: Psy.D., M.Div., LCSW, QCSW
Licensed in New York
7 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Addictions/Substance, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Interpersonal Relationships, Spiritual/Religious Concerns, Stress, Trauma/PTSD, Life Transitions, Sexuality Issues, Women's Issues
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), Children of Divorce, Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual, Step Families
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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11 Quick Questions about Divorce

11 Quick Questions About Divorce


1. How does the quality of one's relationship with their ex-spouse influence the psychological adjustment of their children?

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. When parents model angry, selfish and bitter interaction with one another, their children learn that these disrespectful behaviors are the protocol for how people should be treated. It is no wonder that children from high conflict divorce have a higher incidence of failed relationships later in life. I believe this is why.

2. You write, "Smart parenting is all about trading the momentary relief of venting anger and frustration at your co-parent for the benefit of raising healthier, more productive, and less stressed children." How can a parent deal with their anger in a healthy way that does not cause more pain to their children?
Break a clay pot, scream into a pillow, make a voodoo doll out of modeling clay. Do what ever you want (as long as it is legal and outside of your children's presence) but do not expose your children to toxic emotion. Oh yes, and read my book.

3. How can a person de-escalate the conflict between themselves and their ex-spouse?

It takes two people to fight. The key to de-scalation is ignoring insult and offering reasonable compromises. This takes practice because often, in poor co-parenting relationships people cannot resist the urge to fight fire with fire. Actually to continue the imagery, it is best to fight fire with water. Parents often ask, "Why shoud I give the co-parent what he/she wants?" The answer to this is "because when you can, and when it doesn't much matter one way or the other (i.e. an extra few minutes here and there) the reduction in conflict benefits the kids."

4. What is the "package" that can make a difference in the quality of communication between the ex-spouses?

Resist the urge to "dig" or "poke" with sarcasm and direct insults. Understand that if you hate the co-parent, it is more difficult to love the part of your child that came from the co-parent. Take relief in the fact that any communication you have with the co-parent has a beginning and an end (at least for the moment) and when the contact is over you don't have to go back home and sleep with them.

5. Can you share with us some practical tips for negotiating with a former spouse who is a jerk?
Again, realize that giving in on minor issues is not a sign of personal weakness; on the contrary it is s sign of strength. Understand that what makes people as difficult as they are is that they "enjoy the fight." Fighting, bickering and nitpicking is feeding a part of them that they enjoy -- and that most likely y...

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