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Divorce Counseling Lewiston ME

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. Read on for more.

Sheri Clark
(207) 786-3556
Lewiston, ME
Practice Areas
Clinical Mental Health, Eating Disorders, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Mary Lou McManus- Richter
(207) 657-3340
Gray, ME
Practice Areas
Addictions and Dependency, Clinical Mental Health, Eating Disorders, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Richard Barry Hall
(207) 657-3510
Gray, ME
Practice Areas
Couples & Family, Rehabilitation, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill, Mental Health/Agency Counseling, Disaster Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Dr. Susan Lord
Susan Lord
(207) 363-8814
Rte. 91
York, ME
Credentials
Credentials: PhD, LICSW
Licensed in Maine
30 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Aging, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Bipolar Disorders, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Psychoses/Major Mental Illness, Sexual Abuse/Rape, Sexual Orientation, Stress, Trauma/PTSD, Personality Disorders
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), AIDS/HIV+, Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual, Step Families, Chronic Illness, Cancer Patients, Grandparents
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59), Seniors (60 +)

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Mrs. Jill Avery
(207) 588-0235
345 Water Street
Gardiner, ME
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in Maine
8 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Adoption/Foster Care, Behavioral Problems, Child Abuse and Neglect, Family Dysfunction, Infertility, Interpersonal Relationships, Parenting Issues, Women's Issues
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Preschool (Under 6), Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17)

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Neal, Robin T., M.A., LMFT
(207) 777-7089
86 Main Street, Suite 302
Auburn, ME
Specialties
Marriage counseling; couples counseling; individual and family relationship issues; relationship assessments.

Elizabeth Wallner
(207) 286-5400
Brunswick, ME
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Crouch Paula C
(207) 784-4134
201 Main St
Auburn, ME

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Mrs. Marisol Needle
Therapy Services, Marisol Needle, LCSW
(207) 415-1934
293 State Street
Portland, ME
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
12 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Attention Deficit (Hyperactivity) Disorder, Behavioral Problems, Bipolar Disorders, Depression, Dissociative Disorders, Domestic Violence, Family Dysfunction, Parenting Issues, Psychoses/Major Mental Illness, Sexual Abuse/Rape, Tra
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Children (6-12), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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Ms. Shelley O'Bar
(207) 944-1849
96 Harlow St. Suite 245
Bangor, ME
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in Maine
6 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Addictions/Substance, Adoption/Foster Care, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Bipolar Disorders, Child Abuse and Neglect, Depression, Dissociative Disorders, Family Dysfunction, Self Abuse, Sexual Abuse/Rape, Sexual Orientation, Stress, Trauma/PTSD, Dual Diagnosis,
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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11 Quick Questions about Divorce

11 Quick Questions About Divorce


1. How does the quality of one's relationship with their ex-spouse influence the psychological adjustment of their children?

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. When parents model angry, selfish and bitter interaction with one another, their children learn that these disrespectful behaviors are the protocol for how people should be treated. It is no wonder that children from high conflict divorce have a higher incidence of failed relationships later in life. I believe this is why.

2. You write, "Smart parenting is all about trading the momentary relief of venting anger and frustration at your co-parent for the benefit of raising healthier, more productive, and less stressed children." How can a parent deal with their anger in a healthy way that does not cause more pain to their children?
Break a clay pot, scream into a pillow, make a voodoo doll out of modeling clay. Do what ever you want (as long as it is legal and outside of your children's presence) but do not expose your children to toxic emotion. Oh yes, and read my book.

3. How can a person de-escalate the conflict between themselves and their ex-spouse?

It takes two people to fight. The key to de-scalation is ignoring insult and offering reasonable compromises. This takes practice because often, in poor co-parenting relationships people cannot resist the urge to fight fire with fire. Actually to continue the imagery, it is best to fight fire with water. Parents often ask, "Why shoud I give the co-parent what he/she wants?" The answer to this is "because when you can, and when it doesn't much matter one way or the other (i.e. an extra few minutes here and there) the reduction in conflict benefits the kids."

4. What is the "package" that can make a difference in the quality of communication between the ex-spouses?

Resist the urge to "dig" or "poke" with sarcasm and direct insults. Understand that if you hate the co-parent, it is more difficult to love the part of your child that came from the co-parent. Take relief in the fact that any communication you have with the co-parent has a beginning and an end (at least for the moment) and when the contact is over you don't have to go back home and sleep with them.

5. Can you share with us some practical tips for negotiating with a former spouse who is a jerk?
Again, realize that giving in on minor issues is not a sign of personal weakness; on the contrary it is s sign of strength. Understand that what makes people as difficult as they are is that they "enjoy the fight." Fighting, bickering and nitpicking is feeding a part of them that they enjoy -- and that most likely y...

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