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Divorce Counseling Longview WA

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. Read on for more.

Wayne R Anglin
(360) 501-4122
Longview, WA
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor
Language Proficiencies
Chinese

Ronald Alex Lehto
(360) 577-0266
Longview, WA
Practice Areas
Career Development, Childhood & Adolescence, Clinical Mental Health, Eating Disorders, Couples & Family
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Legacy Counseling Services
(360) 501-4122
836 Maple Street
Longview, WA
 
Ms. Peggy Nast Hayes
(206) 275-3225
2955 80th Avenue SE Suite 206
Mercer Island, WA
Credentials
Credentials: LICSW, BCD
Licensed in Washington
30 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Aging, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Depression, Eating Disorders, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Parenting Issues, Phobias, Pregnancy/Childbirth, Sexual Abuse/Rape, Stress, Trauma/PTSD, Education/Personal Development, Immigration/
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), Children of Divorce, Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual, Caregivers, Cancer Patients, Obese or Overweight
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59), Seniors (60 +)

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Ms. Joan Golston
Joan C. Golston, DCSW, LICSW
(206) 328-1366
1404 East Yesler Way, Ste. 201
Seattle, WA
Credentials
Credentials: DCSW, LICSW
Licensed in Washington
30 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Career/Employment Concerns, Child Abuse and Neglect, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Dissociative Disorders, Domestic Violence, Eating Disorders, Family Dysfunction, Forensic, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Phobias,
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), Children of Divorce, Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual, Immigrants/Refugees, Step Families, Gifted, Obese or Overweight
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59), Seniors (60 +)

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Ronald Schauer
Longview, WA
Practice Areas
Addictions and Dependency, Aging/Gerontological, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor
Language Proficiencies
German

W Leigh O'Malley
(360) 795-8630
Cathlamet, WA
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Ms. Marcia Harms
Bay View Counseling and Consulting
(206) 551-9373
17791 NE Fjord Dr.
Poulsbo, WA
Credentials
Credentials: LMHC, CMHS, GMHS, DMHP
Licensed in Washington
29 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Attention Deficit (Hyperactivity) Disorder, Behavioral Problems, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Parenting Issues, Sexual Abuse/Rape, Trauma/PTSD, Asperger's Syndrome, Women's Issues
Populations Served
Children of Divorce, Step Families, College Students
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Children (6-12), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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Ms. Christine Pollastro
Wellspring Counseling Service
(360) 695-1022
2031 Broadway, Suite C
Vancouver, WA
Credentials
Credentials: LICSW, ACSW
Licensed in Washington
27 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Aging, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Child Abuse and Neglect, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Multicultural Issues, Parenting Issues, Self Abuse, Sexual Abuse/Rape, Stress, Trauma/PTSD, Life Tra
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), Children of Divorce, Step Families
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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Ms. Nancy Skanchy
Skanchy Family Counseling
(360) 980-2570
108 SE 124th Avenue
Vancouver, WA
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in Washington
15 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Multicultural Issues, Parenting Issues, Stress, Women's Issues
Populations Served
Children of Divorce, Step Families, Interracial Families/Couples
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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11 Quick Questions about Divorce

11 Quick Questions About Divorce


1. How does the quality of one's relationship with their ex-spouse influence the psychological adjustment of their children?

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. When parents model angry, selfish and bitter interaction with one another, their children learn that these disrespectful behaviors are the protocol for how people should be treated. It is no wonder that children from high conflict divorce have a higher incidence of failed relationships later in life. I believe this is why.

2. You write, "Smart parenting is all about trading the momentary relief of venting anger and frustration at your co-parent for the benefit of raising healthier, more productive, and less stressed children." How can a parent deal with their anger in a healthy way that does not cause more pain to their children?
Break a clay pot, scream into a pillow, make a voodoo doll out of modeling clay. Do what ever you want (as long as it is legal and outside of your children's presence) but do not expose your children to toxic emotion. Oh yes, and read my book.

3. How can a person de-escalate the conflict between themselves and their ex-spouse?

It takes two people to fight. The key to de-scalation is ignoring insult and offering reasonable compromises. This takes practice because often, in poor co-parenting relationships people cannot resist the urge to fight fire with fire. Actually to continue the imagery, it is best to fight fire with water. Parents often ask, "Why shoud I give the co-parent what he/she wants?" The answer to this is "because when you can, and when it doesn't much matter one way or the other (i.e. an extra few minutes here and there) the reduction in conflict benefits the kids."

4. What is the "package" that can make a difference in the quality of communication between the ex-spouses?

Resist the urge to "dig" or "poke" with sarcasm and direct insults. Understand that if you hate the co-parent, it is more difficult to love the part of your child that came from the co-parent. Take relief in the fact that any communication you have with the co-parent has a beginning and an end (at least for the moment) and when the contact is over you don't have to go back home and sleep with them.

5. Can you share with us some practical tips for negotiating with a former spouse who is a jerk?
Again, realize that giving in on minor issues is not a sign of personal weakness; on the contrary it is s sign of strength. Understand that what makes people as difficult as they are is that they "enjoy the fight." Fighting, bickering and nitpicking is feeding a part of them that they enjoy -- and that most likely y...

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