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Divorce Counseling Marion NC

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. Read on for more.

Robert Matthew Hollifield
(828) 766-3400
Spruce Pine, NC
Practice Areas
Career Development, Childhood & Adolescence, Couples & Family, School, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Howard Doerle
(828) 437-1533
Morganton, NC
Practice Areas
Addictions and Dependency, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Sandy Davis, LCSW Therapeutic Counseling Services
(828) 460-5916
2120 Rutherford Rd
Marion, NC
Specialties
Adult, Children, Geriatric
Gender
Female
Education
Masters
Insurance
BCBS, Medicare, Crescent

Mrs. Elizabeth Detweiler
Human Service Associates
(919) 622-5776
839-C Wake Forest Business Park
Wake Forest, NC
Credentials
Credentials: MSW, LCSW, LCAS
Licensed in North Carolina
19 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Addictions/Other (gambling, sex, etc.), Addictions/Substance, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Behavioral Problems, Child Abuse and Neglect, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Sexual Abuse/Rape, Stress, Trauma/PTSD, Women's Issues
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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Ms. Natalie Gidney-Cole
Triangle Counseling & Family Services
(919) 471-0746
413 Weeping Willow Drive
Durham, NC
Credentials
Credentials: MSW, LCSW
Licensed in North Carolina
16 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Behavioral Problems, Child Abuse and Neglect, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Parenting Issues, Stress
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Preschool (Under 6), Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17)

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Margaret Doerle
(828) 437-1533
Morganton, NC
Practice Areas
Addictions and Dependency, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Jean L Hall
(828) 437-8538
Morganton, NC
Practice Areas
Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Ms. Mary Bowditch
(919) 614-1664
315 N. Academy Street Suite 220
Cary, NC
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW, ACSW
Licensed in North Carolina
20 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Bipolar Disorders, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Interpersonal Relationships, Life Transitions
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Adults (26-59)

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Mr. Louis Di Eugenio
Southeastern Counseling Center
(336) 691-0773
1205 W. Bessemer Ave. Suite 200
Greensboro, NC
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in North Carolina
35 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Addictions/Substance, Couple or Marital Issues, Family Dysfunction, Interpersonal Relationships, Parenting Issues, Stress, Trauma/PTSD, Dual Diagnosis, Attachment Disorders, Infant Mental Health
Populations Served
Transgendered, Military/Veterans, Immigrants/Refugees
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Preschool (Under 6), Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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Ms. Jean Gross
Jean S. Gross
(919) 783-7077
4601 Lake Boone Trail Suite 2C
Raleigh, NC
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in North Carolina
32 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Aging, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Life Transitions, Women's Issues
Populations Served
Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Adults (26-59)

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11 Quick Questions about Divorce

11 Quick Questions About Divorce


1. How does the quality of one's relationship with their ex-spouse influence the psychological adjustment of their children?

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. When parents model angry, selfish and bitter interaction with one another, their children learn that these disrespectful behaviors are the protocol for how people should be treated. It is no wonder that children from high conflict divorce have a higher incidence of failed relationships later in life. I believe this is why.

2. You write, "Smart parenting is all about trading the momentary relief of venting anger and frustration at your co-parent for the benefit of raising healthier, more productive, and less stressed children." How can a parent deal with their anger in a healthy way that does not cause more pain to their children?
Break a clay pot, scream into a pillow, make a voodoo doll out of modeling clay. Do what ever you want (as long as it is legal and outside of your children's presence) but do not expose your children to toxic emotion. Oh yes, and read my book.

3. How can a person de-escalate the conflict between themselves and their ex-spouse?

It takes two people to fight. The key to de-scalation is ignoring insult and offering reasonable compromises. This takes practice because often, in poor co-parenting relationships people cannot resist the urge to fight fire with fire. Actually to continue the imagery, it is best to fight fire with water. Parents often ask, "Why shoud I give the co-parent what he/she wants?" The answer to this is "because when you can, and when it doesn't much matter one way or the other (i.e. an extra few minutes here and there) the reduction in conflict benefits the kids."

4. What is the "package" that can make a difference in the quality of communication between the ex-spouses?

Resist the urge to "dig" or "poke" with sarcasm and direct insults. Understand that if you hate the co-parent, it is more difficult to love the part of your child that came from the co-parent. Take relief in the fact that any communication you have with the co-parent has a beginning and an end (at least for the moment) and when the contact is over you don't have to go back home and sleep with them.

5. Can you share with us some practical tips for negotiating with a former spouse who is a jerk?
Again, realize that giving in on minor issues is not a sign of personal weakness; on the contrary it is s sign of strength. Understand that what makes people as difficult as they are is that they "enjoy the fight." Fighting, bickering and nitpicking is feeding a part of them that they enjoy -- and that most likely y...

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