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Divorce Counseling Mcminnville OR

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. Read on for more.

Mr. Robert Gitelson
Robert Gitelson, LCSW
(503) 318-2212
4720 River Rd. North
Keizer, OR
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in Oregon
20 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Attention Deficit (Hyperactivity) Disorder, Behavioral Problems, Bipolar Disorders, Child Abuse and Neglect, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Parenting Issues, Sexua
Populations Served
Children of Divorce, Step Families
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Preschool (Under 6), Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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Susan Alin
(971) 237-2324
McMinnville, OR
Practice Areas
Career Development, Childhood & Adolescence, Couples & Family, School, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Darilou Potter
(503) 316-6770
Salem, OR
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Cascadia Behavioral Healthcare
(503) 363-2021
3325 Harold Dr NE
Salem, OR

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Ms. Sandra Adams
Sandra A Adams, LCSW
(503) 375-7733
528 Cottage St. NE Suite 300
Salem, OR
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in Oregon
30 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Adoption/Foster Care, Attention Deficit (Hyperactivity) Disorder, Behavioral Problems, Career/Employment Concerns, Depression, Domestic Violence, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Parenting Issues, Sexual Abuse/Rape, Stress, Trau
Populations Served
Children of Divorce, Step Families, Grandparents
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Preschool (Under 6), Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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Life Strategies Counseling
(503) 435-4840
410 E. Third Street, Suite 2
Mcminnville, OR
Specialties
Anger Management,Anxiety or Fears,Child or Adolescent Issues,Depression,Domestic Abuse or Violence,Impulse Control Disorders,Loss or Grief,Parenting,Relationship Issues,Trauma and PTSD
Insurance
Yes

Jane Parisi-Mosher
(503) 472-0210
McMinnville, OR
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Amazing Grace Counseling Svc
(503) 538-4900
430 Villa Rd
Newberg, OR

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Ms. M Young
M Joy Young/Portland Lifestyle Counseling LLC
(503) 309-1163
4605 NE Fremont Street #210C
Portland, OR
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW, CPC
Licensed in Oregon
10 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Aging, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Multicultural Issues, Stress, Life Transitions, Elder Abuse
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), Caregivers
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59), Seniors (60 +)

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Mr. Christopher Tucker
Bridge City Counseling
(503) 341-5104
712 SE Hawthorne Blvd.
Portland, OR
Credentials
Credentials: LPC
Licensed in Oregon
Problems Served
Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Child Abuse and Neglect, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Phobias, Trauma/PTSD, Life Transitions, Personality Disorders, Attachment Disorders
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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11 Quick Questions about Divorce

11 Quick Questions About Divorce


1. How does the quality of one's relationship with their ex-spouse influence the psychological adjustment of their children?

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. When parents model angry, selfish and bitter interaction with one another, their children learn that these disrespectful behaviors are the protocol for how people should be treated. It is no wonder that children from high conflict divorce have a higher incidence of failed relationships later in life. I believe this is why.

2. You write, "Smart parenting is all about trading the momentary relief of venting anger and frustration at your co-parent for the benefit of raising healthier, more productive, and less stressed children." How can a parent deal with their anger in a healthy way that does not cause more pain to their children?
Break a clay pot, scream into a pillow, make a voodoo doll out of modeling clay. Do what ever you want (as long as it is legal and outside of your children's presence) but do not expose your children to toxic emotion. Oh yes, and read my book.

3. How can a person de-escalate the conflict between themselves and their ex-spouse?

It takes two people to fight. The key to de-scalation is ignoring insult and offering reasonable compromises. This takes practice because often, in poor co-parenting relationships people cannot resist the urge to fight fire with fire. Actually to continue the imagery, it is best to fight fire with water. Parents often ask, "Why shoud I give the co-parent what he/she wants?" The answer to this is "because when you can, and when it doesn't much matter one way or the other (i.e. an extra few minutes here and there) the reduction in conflict benefits the kids."

4. What is the "package" that can make a difference in the quality of communication between the ex-spouses?

Resist the urge to "dig" or "poke" with sarcasm and direct insults. Understand that if you hate the co-parent, it is more difficult to love the part of your child that came from the co-parent. Take relief in the fact that any communication you have with the co-parent has a beginning and an end (at least for the moment) and when the contact is over you don't have to go back home and sleep with them.

5. Can you share with us some practical tips for negotiating with a former spouse who is a jerk?
Again, realize that giving in on minor issues is not a sign of personal weakness; on the contrary it is s sign of strength. Understand that what makes people as difficult as they are is that they "enjoy the fight." Fighting, bickering and nitpicking is feeding a part of them that they enjoy -- and that most likely y...

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