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Divorce Counseling Montgomery AL

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. Read on for more.

Ms. Tamara Jenkins
Tami Jenkins, ACSW, LCSW, PIP
(334) 244-7322
4252 Carmichael Road Suite 228
Montgomery, AL
Credentials
Credentials: ACSW, LCSW, PIP
Licensed in Alabama
30 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Behavioral Problems, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Parenting Issues, Sexual Abuse/Rape, Life Transitions, Men's Issues, Women's Issues
Populations Served
Children of Divorce, Military/Veterans, Step Families
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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Nancy W Thomas
(334) 262-7787
Montgomery, AL
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Clinical Mental Health, Eating Disorders, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Robert Joel Farrell ll
(800) 879-9816
Montgomery, AL
Practice Areas
Career Development, Couples & Family, School, Sports Counseling, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Janet Jackson
(334) 241-9604
Montgomery, AL
Practice Areas
Addictions and Dependency, Childhood & Adolescence, Corrections/Offenders, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Paul F Hard
(334) 244-3240
Montgomery, AL
Practice Areas
Clinical Mental Health, Counselor Education, Couples & Family, Mental Health/Agency Counseling, Supervision
Certifications
National Certified Counselor
Language Proficiencies
ASL : American Sign Language,

Lisa Christian Elliott
(334) 270-4100
Montgomery, AL
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Couples & Family, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Linda Holmberg
(334) 396-9323
Montgomery, AL
Practice Areas
Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Allen, Lori ACSW, LCSW
(334) 281-9668
2921 Marti Lane
Montgomery, AL
 
Ann Sweeney
(678) 591-8813
Montgomery, AL
Practice Areas
Career Development, Childhood & Adolescence, Couples & Family, School, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified School Counselor, National Certified Counselor

Ms. Mary Groff
MOUNTAIN CREST COUNSELING
(256) 582-0300
414 Old Town Street
Guntersville, AL
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW-PIP, ACSW
Licensed in Alabama
Problems Served
Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Spiritual/Religious Concerns, Life Transitions, Anger Management
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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11 Quick Questions about Divorce

11 Quick Questions About Divorce


1. How does the quality of one's relationship with their ex-spouse influence the psychological adjustment of their children?

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. When parents model angry, selfish and bitter interaction with one another, their children learn that these disrespectful behaviors are the protocol for how people should be treated. It is no wonder that children from high conflict divorce have a higher incidence of failed relationships later in life. I believe this is why.

2. You write, "Smart parenting is all about trading the momentary relief of venting anger and frustration at your co-parent for the benefit of raising healthier, more productive, and less stressed children." How can a parent deal with their anger in a healthy way that does not cause more pain to their children?
Break a clay pot, scream into a pillow, make a voodoo doll out of modeling clay. Do what ever you want (as long as it is legal and outside of your children's presence) but do not expose your children to toxic emotion. Oh yes, and read my book.

3. How can a person de-escalate the conflict between themselves and their ex-spouse?

It takes two people to fight. The key to de-scalation is ignoring insult and offering reasonable compromises. This takes practice because often, in poor co-parenting relationships people cannot resist the urge to fight fire with fire. Actually to continue the imagery, it is best to fight fire with water. Parents often ask, "Why shoud I give the co-parent what he/she wants?" The answer to this is "because when you can, and when it doesn't much matter one way or the other (i.e. an extra few minutes here and there) the reduction in conflict benefits the kids."

4. What is the "package" that can make a difference in the quality of communication between the ex-spouses?

Resist the urge to "dig" or "poke" with sarcasm and direct insults. Understand that if you hate the co-parent, it is more difficult to love the part of your child that came from the co-parent. Take relief in the fact that any communication you have with the co-parent has a beginning and an end (at least for the moment) and when the contact is over you don't have to go back home and sleep with them.

5. Can you share with us some practical tips for negotiating with a former spouse who is a jerk?
Again, realize that giving in on minor issues is not a sign of personal weakness; on the contrary it is s sign of strength. Understand that what makes people as difficult as they are is that they "enjoy the fight." Fighting, bickering and nitpicking is feeding a part of them that they enjoy -- and that most likely y...

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Alabama Legal Requirements for Divorce

Waiting Period
30 days from date of the filing of the summons and complaint

"No Fault" Grounds for Divorce
Irretrievable breakdown; separation (2 yrs.).

Residency Requirements
At least one party must be resident and must have resided 6 months prior to filing.

Defenses to a Divorce Filing
Condonation, (not if parties connived to commit adultery). Collusion

Code Section
30-2-1 to 12

Other Grounds for Divorce
Adultery; cruelty or violence; drug/alcohol addiction after marriage; insanity (in mental hosp. for 5 successive yrs.); pregnant at time of marriage without husband's knowledge; imprisonment for 2 yrs. if sentence is 7 yrs. or longer; crime against nature with mankind or beast before or after marriage; incompatible temperaments; voluntary abandonment from bed or board for 1 yr.; wife lived apart for 2 years without husband's support while she's residing in state; at time of marriage, incapacitated from entering married state.

From www.statelaws.findlaw.com