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Divorce Counseling New Orleans LA

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. Read on for more.
Mr. Kevin Bourgeois
504-376-5445
744 Dante St.
New Orleans, LA
Ms. Rebecca Baas
985-250-0472
5002 Prytania Street
New Orleans, LA
Mrs. Barbara Carlton
Barbara W. Carlton, LCSW, CEAP, SAP
504-218-4055
300 Codifer Blvd.
Metairie, LA
Mr. Frank Trupiano
Frank A. Trupiano, LCSW
504-392-3498
1581 Carol Sue Ave. Suite 211
Gretna, LA
Mr. Mark Morris
Mark Morris, LCSW
504-388-7463
2901 Ridgelake Drive
Metairie, LA
Ms. Andrea Scheele
504-899-2686
1303 Amelia Street
New Orleans, LA
Ms. Deanna Miles
Center for Change Inc.
504-362-5122
12-A Westbankway, Ste. 205
Gretna, LA
Ms. Maureen Dombourian
Maureen Dombourian, LCSW, ACSW
504-443-9779
1581 Carol Sue Ave. Suite 212
Gretna, LA
Ms. Janice Carbon
Janice B. Carbon, L.C.S.W.
504-833-5087
912 Beverly Garden Dr.
Metairie, LA
Ms. Marsha Loats
Marsha P. Loats, LCSW
504-908-8160
2820 Athania Pkwy. #2
Metairie, LA
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11 Quick Questions about Divorce

11 Quick Questions About Divorce


1. How does the quality of one's relationship with their ex-spouse influence the psychological adjustment of their children?

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. When parents model angry, selfish and bitter interaction with one another, their children learn that these disrespectful behaviors are the protocol for how people should be treated. It is no wonder that children from high conflict divorce have a higher incidence of failed relationships later in life. I believe this is why.

2. You write, "Smart parenting is all about trading the momentary relief of venting anger and frustration at your co-parent for the benefit of raising healthier, more productive, and less stressed children." How can a parent deal with their anger in a healthy way that does not cause more pain to their children?
Break a clay pot, scream into a pillow, make a voodoo doll out of modeling clay. Do what ever you want (as long as it is legal and outside of your children's presence) but do not expose your children to toxic emotion. Oh yes, and read my book.

3. How can a person de-escalate the conflict between themselves and their ex-spouse?

It takes two people to fight. The key to de-scalation is ignoring insult and offering reasonable compromises. This takes practice because often, in poor co-parenting relationships people cannot resist the urge to fight fire with fire. Actually to continue the imagery, it is best to fight fire with water. Parents often ask, "Why shoud I give the co-parent what he/she wants?" The answer to this is "because when you can, and when it doesn't much matter one way or the other (i.e. an extra few minutes here and there) the reduction in conflict benefits the kids."

4. What is the "package" that can make a difference in the quality of communication between the ex-spouses?

Resist the urge to "dig" or "poke" with sarcasm and direct insults. Understand that if you hate the co-parent, it is more difficult to love the part of your child that came from the co-parent. Take relief in the fact that any communication you have with the co-parent has a beginning and an end (at least for the moment) and when the contact is over you don't have to go back home and sleep with them.

5. Can you share with us some practical tips for negotiating with a former spouse who is a jerk?
Again, realize that giving in on minor issues is not a sign of personal weakness; on the contrary it is s sign of strength. Understand that what makes people as difficult as they are is that they "enjoy the fight." Fighting, bickering and nitpicking is feeding a part of them that they enjoy -- and that most likely y...

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