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Divorce Counseling Ottumwa IA

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. Read on for more.

Laci Keith
(641) 682-2800
Ottumwa, IA
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Ms. Mary Buhman
Mary M. Buhman, LISW
(712) 258-4553
505 5th St
Sioux city, IA
Credentials
Credentials: LISW
Licensed in Iowa
5 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Addictions/Substance, Child Abuse and Neglect, Family Dysfunction, Parenting Issues, Dual Diagnosis, Attachment Disorders
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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Mrs. Patty Cook
Integrative Counseling Solutions Inc.
(641) 842-4352
107 South 3rd Street
Knoxville, IA
Credentials
Credentials: MSW, LISW
Licensed in Iowa
14 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Attention Deficit (Hyperactivity) Disorder, Behavioral Problems, Child Abuse and Neglect, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Domestic Violence, Family Dysfunction, Interpersonal Relationships, Parenting Issues, Self Abuse, Sexua
Populations Served
Children of Divorce, Offenders/Perpetrators, Step Families, Gifted
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

Data Provided By:
Ms. Joni Dittmer
Joni Dittmer
(563) 320-4395
12090 W. 240th St.
Iowa, IA
Credentials
Credentials: LISW
Licensed in Iowa
27 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Behavioral Problems, Career/Employment Concerns, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Domestic Violence, Eating Disorders, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Obsessive/Compulsive Disorder, Parenting Issues, Phobias, Sexual Abuse/
Populations Served
Children of Divorce, Step Families
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

Data Provided By:
Patricia Morris
(425) 609-2210
Coeur d Alenei, IA
Practice Areas
Addictions and Dependency, Career Development, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Rehabilitation
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Ms. Lynda Topp
Counseling Center of Iowa City
(319) 337-6483
2101 ACT Circle Suite 202
Iowa City, IA
Credentials
Credentials: LISW
Licensed in Iowa
27 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Bipolar Disorders, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Interpersonal Relationships, Parenting Issues, Sexual Abuse/Rape, Stress, Trauma/PTSD, Life Transitions, Women's Issues
Populations Served
Children of Divorce, Step Families
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Children (6-12), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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Ms. Judy Prochaska
Psychology Health Group
(563) 359-4049
2102 E 38th St
Davenport, IA
Credentials
Credentials: MSW, LISW, LCSW
Licensed in Iowa
20 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Addictions/Substance, Behavioral Problems, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Parenting Issues, Stress, Trauma/PTSD, Dual Diagnosis, Life Transitions
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), Children of Divorce, Military/Veterans
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

Data Provided By:
Ms. Janis Edwards
Associates for Psychiatric Services
(712) 234-0220
600 4th Street Suite 501
Sioux City, IA
Credentials
Credentials: LISW
Licensed in Iowa
29 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Behavioral Problems, Bipolar Disorders, Career/Employment Concerns, Child Abuse and Neglect, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Dissociative Disorders, Eating Disorders, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationship
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), Children of Divorce, Step Families
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Preschool (Under 6), Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59), Seniors (60 +)

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Mary Crawford
(319) 291-6500
Waterloo, IA
Practice Areas
Addictions and Dependency, Childhood & Adolescence, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Bernadine Curoe
(319) 588-7256
Dubuque, IA
Practice Areas
Couples & Family, School
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

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11 Quick Questions about Divorce

11 Quick Questions About Divorce


1. How does the quality of one's relationship with their ex-spouse influence the psychological adjustment of their children?

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. When parents model angry, selfish and bitter interaction with one another, their children learn that these disrespectful behaviors are the protocol for how people should be treated. It is no wonder that children from high conflict divorce have a higher incidence of failed relationships later in life. I believe this is why.

2. You write, "Smart parenting is all about trading the momentary relief of venting anger and frustration at your co-parent for the benefit of raising healthier, more productive, and less stressed children." How can a parent deal with their anger in a healthy way that does not cause more pain to their children?
Break a clay pot, scream into a pillow, make a voodoo doll out of modeling clay. Do what ever you want (as long as it is legal and outside of your children's presence) but do not expose your children to toxic emotion. Oh yes, and read my book.

3. How can a person de-escalate the conflict between themselves and their ex-spouse?

It takes two people to fight. The key to de-scalation is ignoring insult and offering reasonable compromises. This takes practice because often, in poor co-parenting relationships people cannot resist the urge to fight fire with fire. Actually to continue the imagery, it is best to fight fire with water. Parents often ask, "Why shoud I give the co-parent what he/she wants?" The answer to this is "because when you can, and when it doesn't much matter one way or the other (i.e. an extra few minutes here and there) the reduction in conflict benefits the kids."

4. What is the "package" that can make a difference in the quality of communication between the ex-spouses?

Resist the urge to "dig" or "poke" with sarcasm and direct insults. Understand that if you hate the co-parent, it is more difficult to love the part of your child that came from the co-parent. Take relief in the fact that any communication you have with the co-parent has a beginning and an end (at least for the moment) and when the contact is over you don't have to go back home and sleep with them.

5. Can you share with us some practical tips for negotiating with a former spouse who is a jerk?
Again, realize that giving in on minor issues is not a sign of personal weakness; on the contrary it is s sign of strength. Understand that what makes people as difficult as they are is that they "enjoy the fight." Fighting, bickering and nitpicking is feeding a part of them that they enjoy -- and that most likely y...

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