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Divorce Counseling Portage IN

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. Read on for more.

Mrs. Michelle Batacan Alexander
Michelle Batacan, LCSW
(219) 877-8921
450 St. John Rd. Suite 301-128
Michigan City, IN
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in Indiana
26 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Aging, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Interpersonal Relationships, Stress, Education/Personal Development, Women's Issues
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59), Seniors (60 +)

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Jean Lubeckis
(219) 464-9495
Valparaiso, IN
Practice Areas
Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill, Disaster Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Mrs. Diann C Binns
(219) 293-8364
2005 Valparaiso St
Valparaiso, IN
Specialties
Loss or Grief, Self Esteem, Divorce
Qualification
School: Indiana University
Year of Graduation: 2005
Years In Practice: 10+ Years
Patient Info
Ethnicity: Any
Gender: All
Age: Adults,Elders (65+)
Average Cost
$70 - $80
Payment Methods
Sliding Scale: No
Accepts Credit Cards: Yes

Ryan Parsons-Rozycki
(219) 989-2366
Hammond, IN
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Mental Health/Agency Counseling, Disaster Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Jennifer Hobbs, PhD, LMHC
(219) 921-5818
PO BOX 297
Valparaiso, IN
Specialties
Individual, Child, & Family Therapy

Marjorie Jones
(219) 718-8662
Hobart, IN
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Cheryl Kaper
(219) 462-6109
Valparaiso, IN
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Holly Lynn Simpson
(219) 462-9000
Valparaiso, IN
Practice Areas
Career Development, Childhood & Adolescence, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill, Supervision
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Melanie C Benes
(708) 371-1880
Schererville, IN
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill, Mental Health/Agency Counseling, Supervision
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Alcohol A Abuse Action Addiction Help Line
(219) 885-1150
542 E 7th Ave
Gary, IN
 
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11 Quick Questions about Divorce

11 Quick Questions About Divorce


1. How does the quality of one's relationship with their ex-spouse influence the psychological adjustment of their children?

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. When parents model angry, selfish and bitter interaction with one another, their children learn that these disrespectful behaviors are the protocol for how people should be treated. It is no wonder that children from high conflict divorce have a higher incidence of failed relationships later in life. I believe this is why.

2. You write, "Smart parenting is all about trading the momentary relief of venting anger and frustration at your co-parent for the benefit of raising healthier, more productive, and less stressed children." How can a parent deal with their anger in a healthy way that does not cause more pain to their children?
Break a clay pot, scream into a pillow, make a voodoo doll out of modeling clay. Do what ever you want (as long as it is legal and outside of your children's presence) but do not expose your children to toxic emotion. Oh yes, and read my book.

3. How can a person de-escalate the conflict between themselves and their ex-spouse?

It takes two people to fight. The key to de-scalation is ignoring insult and offering reasonable compromises. This takes practice because often, in poor co-parenting relationships people cannot resist the urge to fight fire with fire. Actually to continue the imagery, it is best to fight fire with water. Parents often ask, "Why shoud I give the co-parent what he/she wants?" The answer to this is "because when you can, and when it doesn't much matter one way or the other (i.e. an extra few minutes here and there) the reduction in conflict benefits the kids."

4. What is the "package" that can make a difference in the quality of communication between the ex-spouses?

Resist the urge to "dig" or "poke" with sarcasm and direct insults. Understand that if you hate the co-parent, it is more difficult to love the part of your child that came from the co-parent. Take relief in the fact that any communication you have with the co-parent has a beginning and an end (at least for the moment) and when the contact is over you don't have to go back home and sleep with them.

5. Can you share with us some practical tips for negotiating with a former spouse who is a jerk?
Again, realize that giving in on minor issues is not a sign of personal weakness; on the contrary it is s sign of strength. Understand that what makes people as difficult as they are is that they "enjoy the fight." Fighting, bickering and nitpicking is feeding a part of them that they enjoy -- and that most likely y...

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