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Divorce Counseling Rochester NH

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. Read on for more.

Ms. Nancy McLane
NC McLane Counseling Services, PLLC
(603) 332-2377
1 Wakefield Street Suite 223
Rochester, NH
Credentials
Credentials: LICSW
Licensed in New Hampshire
8 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Aging, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Behavioral Problems, Career/Employment Concerns, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Infertility, Interpersonal Relationships, Obsessive/Compulsive Disorder, Parenting Issues, Phobias, Physi
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), Children of Divorce, Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual, Military/Veterans, Disabled, Alzheimer's, Caregivers, Step Families, Gifted, Chronic Illness, Cancer Patients
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59), Seniors (60 +)

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Dr. Susan Lord
Susan Lord
(207) 363-8814
Rte. 91
York, ME
Credentials
Credentials: PhD, LICSW
Licensed in Maine
30 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Aging, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Bipolar Disorders, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Psychoses/Major Mental Illness, Sexual Abuse/Rape, Sexual Orientation, Stress, Trauma/PTSD, Personality Disorders
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), AIDS/HIV+, Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual, Step Families, Chronic Illness, Cancer Patients, Grandparents
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59), Seniors (60 +)

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Mr. Vincent A Duffy
(603) 769-4149
Vincent A Duffy LICSW16 Pierce St
Dover, NH
Specialties
Relationship Issues, Depression, Divorce
Qualification
School: University of New England
Year of Graduation: 1995
Years In Practice: 10+ Years
Patient Info
Ethnicity: Any
Gender: All
Age: Adolescents / Teenagers (14 to 19),Adults,Elders (65+)
Average Cost
$60 - $100
Payment Methods
Sliding Scale: Yes
Accepted Insurance Plans: Aetna

Timothy Zerr
(207) 252-5458
Springvale, ME
Practice Areas
Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Mental Health/Agency Counseling, Disaster Counseling, Supervision
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Susan Lager, LICSW
(603) 431-7131
118 Maplewood Ave., Building A
Portsmouth, NH
 
Ms. Gayle Joyce
Child & Family Counseling
(603) 781-2003
Damon Office Park 178 Dow Highway
Eliot, ME
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in Maine
7 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Attention Deficit (Hyperactivity) Disorder, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Parenting Issues
Populations Served
Children of Divorce, Military/Veterans, Step Families
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17)

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Ms. Marjorie W Briand
(603) 742-0950
90 Washington St
Dover, NH
Specialties
Career Counseling, Transitions: Divorce, Family, Loss or Grief
Qualification
School: University of New Hampshire
Year of Graduation: 1999
Years In Practice: 15+ Years
Patient Info
Ethnicity: Any
Gender: All
Payment Methods
Sliding Scale: No
Accepts Credit Cards: No
Accepted Insurance Plans: Aetna

Nancy Cramer Webb
(603) 868-1241
Durham, NH
Practice Areas
Career Development, Childhood & Adolescence, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
Certified Clinical Mental Health Counselor, National Certified Counselor

Faith E Sillars
Pittsyield, NH
Practice Areas
Clinical Mental Health, Eating Disorders, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Ms. Candace C Wheeler
(603) 952-4159
404 the Hill
Portsmouth, NH
Specialties
Loss or Grief, Divorce
Qualification
School: Simmon School of Social Work
Year of Graduation: 1976
Years In Practice: 30+ Years
Patient Info
Ethnicity: Any
Gender: All
Age: Adolescents / Teenagers (14 to 19),Adults,Elders (65+)
Payment Methods
Sliding Scale: Yes
Accepts Credit Cards: Yes
Accepted Insurance Plans: BlueCross and/or BlueShield

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11 Quick Questions about Divorce

11 Quick Questions About Divorce


1. How does the quality of one's relationship with their ex-spouse influence the psychological adjustment of their children?

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. When parents model angry, selfish and bitter interaction with one another, their children learn that these disrespectful behaviors are the protocol for how people should be treated. It is no wonder that children from high conflict divorce have a higher incidence of failed relationships later in life. I believe this is why.

2. You write, "Smart parenting is all about trading the momentary relief of venting anger and frustration at your co-parent for the benefit of raising healthier, more productive, and less stressed children." How can a parent deal with their anger in a healthy way that does not cause more pain to their children?
Break a clay pot, scream into a pillow, make a voodoo doll out of modeling clay. Do what ever you want (as long as it is legal and outside of your children's presence) but do not expose your children to toxic emotion. Oh yes, and read my book.

3. How can a person de-escalate the conflict between themselves and their ex-spouse?

It takes two people to fight. The key to de-scalation is ignoring insult and offering reasonable compromises. This takes practice because often, in poor co-parenting relationships people cannot resist the urge to fight fire with fire. Actually to continue the imagery, it is best to fight fire with water. Parents often ask, "Why shoud I give the co-parent what he/she wants?" The answer to this is "because when you can, and when it doesn't much matter one way or the other (i.e. an extra few minutes here and there) the reduction in conflict benefits the kids."

4. What is the "package" that can make a difference in the quality of communication between the ex-spouses?

Resist the urge to "dig" or "poke" with sarcasm and direct insults. Understand that if you hate the co-parent, it is more difficult to love the part of your child that came from the co-parent. Take relief in the fact that any communication you have with the co-parent has a beginning and an end (at least for the moment) and when the contact is over you don't have to go back home and sleep with them.

5. Can you share with us some practical tips for negotiating with a former spouse who is a jerk?
Again, realize that giving in on minor issues is not a sign of personal weakness; on the contrary it is s sign of strength. Understand that what makes people as difficult as they are is that they "enjoy the fight." Fighting, bickering and nitpicking is feeding a part of them that they enjoy -- and that most likely y...

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