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Divorce Counseling Salem OR

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. Read on for more.

Ms. Sandra Adams
Sandra A Adams, LCSW
(503) 375-7733
528 Cottage St. NE Suite 300
Salem, OR
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in Oregon
30 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Adoption/Foster Care, Attention Deficit (Hyperactivity) Disorder, Behavioral Problems, Career/Employment Concerns, Depression, Domestic Violence, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Parenting Issues, Sexual Abuse/Rape, Stress, Trau
Populations Served
Children of Divorce, Step Families, Grandparents
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Preschool (Under 6), Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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AHAVAH Massage & Wellness Center
(503) 363-8372
4747 Skyline Road South, Suite 190
Salem, OR
Services
Weight Management, Therapeutic Touch, Stress Management, Reiki, Nutrition, Massage Therapy, Healing Touch, Family Therapy, Energy Medicine, Aromatherapy
Membership Organizations
American Holistic Medical Association

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Mary Ann Fahlstrom
(503) 298-6609
2367 State St
Salem, OR
Specialties
Child or Adolescent, Parenting, Divorce, Bipolar Disorder
Qualification
School: Institute of Transpersonal Psychology
Year of Graduation: 2002
Years In Practice: 10+ Years
Patient Info
Ethnicity: Any
Gender: All
Age: Children (6 to 10),Adolescents / Teenagers (14 to 19),Adults,Elders (65+)
Average Cost
$90 - $120
Payment Methods
Sliding Scale: Yes
Accepts Credit Cards: Yes
Accepted Insurance Plans: Aetna

Ms. Christine Boyington
(971) 248-0997 x3
2367 State Street
Salem, OR
Specialties
Child or Adolescent, Relationship Issues, Divorce, Dissociative Disorders
Qualification
School: University of Oregon
Year of Graduation: 2005
Years In Practice: 6 Years
Patient Info
Ethnicity: Any
Gender: All
Age: Children (6 to 10),Adolescents / Teenagers (14 to 19),Adults
Average Cost
$100 - $120
Payment Methods
Sliding Scale: Yes
Accepts Credit Cards: No
Accepted Insurance Plans: BlueCross and/or BlueShield

ANTHONY GAGLIARDO, MSW, LCSW
(503) 581-7550
161 High St SE.,Ste 204
Salem, OR
Specialties
Addictions or Substance Abuse,Anger Management,Depression,Divorce,Domestic Abuse or Violence,Eating Disorders,Loss or Grief,Personality Disorders,Relationship Issues,Trauma and PTSD
Education
Master's Degree in Social Work- Portland State UniversityBS. in Psychology- University of OregonAA in Human Services - Umpqua Community College
Insurance
Yes
Membership Organizations
ICARUS Counseling, Inc

Mr. Robert Gitelson
Robert Gitelson, LCSW
(503) 318-2212
4720 River Rd. North
Keizer, OR
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in Oregon
20 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Attention Deficit (Hyperactivity) Disorder, Behavioral Problems, Bipolar Disorders, Child Abuse and Neglect, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Parenting Issues, Sexua
Populations Served
Children of Divorce, Step Families
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Preschool (Under 6), Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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Tedra Mandell
Salem, OR
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Couples & Family
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Judith Tuttle Zollner
(503) 370-8050
Salem, OR
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Couples & Family, School, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified Counselor
Language Proficiencies
German

George Olson
(503) 949-5941
Salem, OR
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Clinical Mental Health, Eating Disorders, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Martin Gay
(503) 375-6362
Salem, OR
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill, Mental Health/Agency Counseling
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

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11 Quick Questions about Divorce

11 Quick Questions About Divorce


1. How does the quality of one's relationship with their ex-spouse influence the psychological adjustment of their children?

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. When parents model angry, selfish and bitter interaction with one another, their children learn that these disrespectful behaviors are the protocol for how people should be treated. It is no wonder that children from high conflict divorce have a higher incidence of failed relationships later in life. I believe this is why.

2. You write, "Smart parenting is all about trading the momentary relief of venting anger and frustration at your co-parent for the benefit of raising healthier, more productive, and less stressed children." How can a parent deal with their anger in a healthy way that does not cause more pain to their children?
Break a clay pot, scream into a pillow, make a voodoo doll out of modeling clay. Do what ever you want (as long as it is legal and outside of your children's presence) but do not expose your children to toxic emotion. Oh yes, and read my book.

3. How can a person de-escalate the conflict between themselves and their ex-spouse?

It takes two people to fight. The key to de-scalation is ignoring insult and offering reasonable compromises. This takes practice because often, in poor co-parenting relationships people cannot resist the urge to fight fire with fire. Actually to continue the imagery, it is best to fight fire with water. Parents often ask, "Why shoud I give the co-parent what he/she wants?" The answer to this is "because when you can, and when it doesn't much matter one way or the other (i.e. an extra few minutes here and there) the reduction in conflict benefits the kids."

4. What is the "package" that can make a difference in the quality of communication between the ex-spouses?

Resist the urge to "dig" or "poke" with sarcasm and direct insults. Understand that if you hate the co-parent, it is more difficult to love the part of your child that came from the co-parent. Take relief in the fact that any communication you have with the co-parent has a beginning and an end (at least for the moment) and when the contact is over you don't have to go back home and sleep with them.

5. Can you share with us some practical tips for negotiating with a former spouse who is a jerk?
Again, realize that giving in on minor issues is not a sign of personal weakness; on the contrary it is s sign of strength. Understand that what makes people as difficult as they are is that they "enjoy the fight." Fighting, bickering and nitpicking is feeding a part of them that they enjoy -- and that most likely y...

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Oregon Legal Requirements for Divorce

Waiting Period
Decree final immediately; no trial until 90 days after service (unless emergency).

"No Fault" Grounds for Divorce
Irremedial breakdown; separation for 1 yr.

Residency Requirements
One party resident for 6 months prior unless marriage solemnized in state, either is resident at time of filing, dissolution based on void marriage.

Defenses to a Divorce Filing
Abolished by §107.036.

Code Section
107 et seq.

Other Grounds for Divorce
When either party was incapable of making contract or consenting for want of legal age or sufficient understanding. Doctrines of fault and in pari delicto abolished by §107.036

From www.statelaws.findlaw.com