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Divorce Counseling Staunton VA

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. Read on for more.

Thomas Arbaugh Jr
(540) 885-5105
Staunton, VA
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill, Supervision
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Amanda Ohlms
(540) 949-7045
Waynesboro, VA
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Couples & Family, School
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Erin Johnson
(434) 971-4747
Charlottesville, VA
Practice Areas
Career Development, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill, Supervision
Certifications
Master Addictions Counselor, National Certified Counselor

Mrs. Jessica Northrop
Behavioral Healthcare of Fredericksburg
(540) 310-0797
312 Progress Street Suite 200
Fredericksburg, VA
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in Virginia
9 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Aging, Behavioral Problems, Family Dysfunction, Interpersonal Relationships, Physical Illness/Impairment, Stress
Populations Served
Alzheimer's, Caregivers, Chronic Illness
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Preschool (Under 6), Adolescents (13-17), Young Adults (18-25), Seniors (60 +)

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Dr. Yvonne Barry
Adult, Child, Marriage and Family Counseling Center
(804) 363-6437
Old Country Lane
Midlothian, VA
Credentials
Credentials: MSW, MFT, EdD.
Licensed in Virginia
27 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Couple or Marital Issues, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Parenting Issues, Stress, Education/Personal Development, Women's Issues
Populations Served
Children of Divorce, Caregivers, Step Families, Chronic Illness, Interracial Families/Couples
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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Jennifer Hatter
(540) 649-5570
Staunton, VA
Practice Areas
Counselor Education, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill, Disaster Counseling, Supervision
Certifications
National Certified Counselor

Martha Stover Barlow
(540) 828-5358
Bridgewater, VA
Practice Areas
Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
Certifications
Certified Clinical Mental Health Counselor, National Certified Counselor

Valley Pastoral Counseling Center
(540) 943-8722
300 Chestnut Ave
Waynesboro, VA

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Mrs. Virginia Spector
Anne T. Spector, LCSW
(804) 320-8570
7329 Boulders View Lane
Richmond, VA
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in Virginia
28 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Aging, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Bipolar Disorders, Career/Employment Concerns, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Pregnancy/Childbirth, Psychoses/Major Mental Illness, Stress, Dual Diagnosis,
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), Children of Divorce, Military/Veterans, Caregivers, Step Families, Gifted, Chronic Illness, Interracial Families/Couples, Grandparents
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59), Seniors (60 +)

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Ms. Kathi Whitten
Northern VA Psychotherapy Assoc., Inc.
(703) 742-6043
Herndon Pkwy. #201
Herndon, VA
Credentials
Credentials: LCSW
Licensed in Virginia
25 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Addictions/Substance, Aging, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Bipolar Disorders, Couple or Marital Issues, Depression, Family Dysfunction, Grief/Loss, Interpersonal Relationships, Pain Management, Physical Illness/Impairment, Stress, Dual Diagnosis, Life Transitio
Populations Served
ACOA (Adult Children of Alcoholics), Disabled, Caregivers, Step Families, Chronic Illness, Cancer Patients, Grandparents
Membership Organizations
HelpPro.com
Age Groups Served
Young Adults (18-25), Adults (26-59)

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11 Quick Questions about Divorce

11 Quick Questions About Divorce


1. How does the quality of one's relationship with their ex-spouse influence the psychological adjustment of their children?

Regardless of whether children grow up in one home or two, parents provide a model for conducting important relationships. Part of every important relationship is mutual respect, civilized interaction, problem solving and conflict resolution, compromise, appreciation and gratitude, patience and forgiveness. When parents model angry, selfish and bitter interaction with one another, their children learn that these disrespectful behaviors are the protocol for how people should be treated. It is no wonder that children from high conflict divorce have a higher incidence of failed relationships later in life. I believe this is why.

2. You write, "Smart parenting is all about trading the momentary relief of venting anger and frustration at your co-parent for the benefit of raising healthier, more productive, and less stressed children." How can a parent deal with their anger in a healthy way that does not cause more pain to their children?
Break a clay pot, scream into a pillow, make a voodoo doll out of modeling clay. Do what ever you want (as long as it is legal and outside of your children's presence) but do not expose your children to toxic emotion. Oh yes, and read my book.

3. How can a person de-escalate the conflict between themselves and their ex-spouse?

It takes two people to fight. The key to de-scalation is ignoring insult and offering reasonable compromises. This takes practice because often, in poor co-parenting relationships people cannot resist the urge to fight fire with fire. Actually to continue the imagery, it is best to fight fire with water. Parents often ask, "Why shoud I give the co-parent what he/she wants?" The answer to this is "because when you can, and when it doesn't much matter one way or the other (i.e. an extra few minutes here and there) the reduction in conflict benefits the kids."

4. What is the "package" that can make a difference in the quality of communication between the ex-spouses?

Resist the urge to "dig" or "poke" with sarcasm and direct insults. Understand that if you hate the co-parent, it is more difficult to love the part of your child that came from the co-parent. Take relief in the fact that any communication you have with the co-parent has a beginning and an end (at least for the moment) and when the contact is over you don't have to go back home and sleep with them.

5. Can you share with us some practical tips for negotiating with a former spouse who is a jerk?
Again, realize that giving in on minor issues is not a sign of personal weakness; on the contrary it is s sign of strength. Understand that what makes people as difficult as they are is that they "enjoy the fight." Fighting, bickering and nitpicking is feeding a part of them that they enjoy -- and that most likely y...

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